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I try to (1) keep it as invested as the girl or less, (2) fun/flirty, and (3) soft close when ready but I seem to get a lot of ghosting on hinge. These girls are cute but the flake rate is ~80%. Anything obvious I'm messing up on? 3 sets of examples attached, with varying levels of investment from the girl from start to finish. I've tried investing even less before but got even more ghosting, which is why my messages are now between 70-100% the length of hers.

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I get that the Ryan Gosling (Happy Monday, etc) meme works really well for white guys, but does it also work for Asians? Like will she be confused bc I'm Asian but sending a pic of a white dude... Or should I use another person like Jet Li or something..

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I get matched with hot girls but most of them only respond to 1-2 messages before going silent (+80% silence), vs with other ones like bumble, I get consistent follow through to the date most of the time (+60% convert to a date). It's like polar opposite even though my texting game is the same and so are my pics. Anyone else have this same issue? Super confused

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I matched with a girl on Hinge and we're having a convo on there that I'm currently closing. I'm also on Bumble so saw her profile pop up. Do you recommend I swipe left or right and why?

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From Coffee Meets Bagel, I set up date but didn't see full body pic so I requested it. The pics don't look good so I don't want to go on the date anymore. After sending the full body pic, she asked me if I still wanted to go on the date. How do I reply that I'm not interested without making her hate me and report me on the dating app?

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Debating whether to put the I in front of this text or not... Thoughts on this specific example and the general principle of when to include "I" in the beginning vs not? My draft message is at the bottom of the screenshot. ...Or am I overthinking it.

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No matter how much I improve my text game, they seem to flake at the suggestion of a meetup. Screenshot of example below. Going to follow-up with a '...?' tomorrow but lmk where I may have messed up

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I just bought a vibrator for use with the girls I see, but am concerned that girls won't want to use it bc they sometimes ask, which other girls have you used this on? I just used it last night and it was the first girl, so I assured her she was the only one, which is true, but I wonder how to react when other girls ask the same question...

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Was messaging this hot girl on Tinder and she ghosted right as I went for the close. Where did I mess up exactly? I know my last set of messages was probably a little long but hers were pretty long too so I thought it was ok...

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