I was hooking up at my place with a really quite DTF girl from Hinge. I fingered her then went down on her, both until she came. Then she took my pants off and gave me a handjob over my briefs. Then I pinned her and playfully choked her. At that point, she unexpectedly excused herself to the bathroom. After that, she said this isn't gonna work out and gave me some bullshit excuse like "it's not my style", then "you don't seem to know what you're doing", then left. When I asked her what make her say that, she pulled another excuse "the kissing wasn't good, too much tongue". She is big into kissing but she also used her tongue a lot, so I don't buy that.  Do you think she was real about the kissing too much tongue? Or was it the choking? I also have to say I didn't get hard, even during her handjob. Could that be the reason why? Is it possible that she thought I'm only choking her in an attempt to get hard?

Saw a girl sitting by herself at Starbucks, decided to strike up a conversation which led to her giving me her number. How do I move this interaction forward (without getting into the details of the cold approach if it doesn’t help)? Is more investment needed from her before going for the soft close/meet up? If so, what‘s a good text to move this text exchange forward while getting her more invested?