Well not really a rant, just a clickbaity title, but more so my mezzo mezzo experience after being on 2 dates in 2 weeks I found on hinge.
I 24M from Mumbai decent looking I'll give myself 6.5 or so have been using hinge for 2-3 weeks now. Have been using AI photos (not from Unreal tho, I won't name the app I used since Alex has affiliation with Unreal and while Unreal might be very good, the pricing doesn't seem to be nowhere close to affordable for an average Indian. $299 or even $279 after discount is a lot considering the purchasing power parity factor) but I was just saying the photos I've been using has gotten me a lot of matches like 41-42 matches (29 active, rest unmatched) in 2-3 weeks.
My photos include playing badminton, rooftop bar portfolio shot, playing snooker, etc so it's a good combo of lifestyle, personality and activity.
My prompts are also somewhat sexual and not completely platonic. Been using PWF's hinge profile prompts.
And yes I'll admit I'm also using Hinge X but the women I've matched with so far seem to be very confused as to what they want. I've been matching with 21-25 year olds and having v good convos. Big ups to Fire texts app, I'm a paying sub and it's def helping me.
But the 2 dates I went on they were very like just meet up have food and drinks and leave.
First girl 23F, I had tried my best to escalate and sexualize with humour through text but all of them were falling flat. It was like she had decided she won't let anyone hit lol. We meet up at a bar for drinks, I sit besides her and she tells me to sit in front of her. I told her "I won't bite besides the crowd is too noisy and music is loud". She got up from her place and sat in front of me LMAO. Big 🚩. Anyways, I get the non-verbal cues that she doesn't want to escalate this date, I thought maybe with some comfort and get to know each other things will get easier. I try adding some slightly sexual humour here and there like "day was long... Ah Ik you like long things" etc as Alex instructs in his videos. But she was being too bratty and unresponsive. Biggest 🚩 she gets a couple of texts and starts replying, now I wouldn't be on my phone if I'm on a date, it's not a good sign unless it's like urgent or some work related shit. I still try to poke fun of it by saying something like "Seems like your boss is missing you way too much" and she starts explaining how this other guy who she was in short 10-15 day live in hoe phase with 2-3 years ago is now trying to get her back while he is in a relationship and having a girlfriend. Big turnoff for me. She is openly admitting her hoe phase and how her ex is trying to win her back and at one point during the date she tells me "I get this feeling you're trying to put on an act rn but deep down you're a lover boy" I throw that shit test back at her by saying "You got an eye for talent. I can be hopeless romantic and lover boy for the right girl, but I'm very selective who I want in my life". But that very moment I was so pissed like you've been through a hoe phase and now you want a decent sweet guy who's gonna be a simp around you F OFF. I didn't see the date going anywhere, def not at her place or even slight possibility of making out, we part ways and just out of courtesy I text her "text me when you reach home" and guess what... Blocked LOL.
Second girl 25F, very good chemistry from the get go from texts, we have fun banter, I sexualize through texts, she becomes bit receptive to it in the sense she shares how submissive she is, shares me a link of 'why dancers are good in bed' (she is a dancer) etc but I could sense that she wasn't fully into the idea of sexting or sexualizing. I do the takeaways, it worked, came around setting up date and logistics I ask her if her place is an option. She tells me "that's level 2, level 1 let's meet and see the vibe and chemistry first" now I didn't explicitly say that we'd hookup, I just said we could split wine at her place. Again takeaway and meet at a pub, too loud music, I sit besides her and as the date went on (although she seemed to chill and fun compared to the other date mentioned up) she kinda let my slightly playfull sexualizing jokes fall flat, her body lang was also bit closed and reserved so I took takeaways and noticed them, her body then kinda opened, again when I'd come bit close to her (progressively not like pouncing on her) she'd again go all crossed hands and legs and leaning her body towards the other side. Plus her body lang kinda changed more when she got to know that I'm 24. FYI my age is visible on hinge and I didn't lie there but she didn't realize it before and she started feeling like I'm on a date with a guy 2 years younger than me!! I was trying to put that shit aside saying her it's just a number on our license, it don't matter unless the chemistry is good, I even joked "don't be so hard on yourself, you don't look that old and I'm not that young that you'll have to breastfeed me". But she seemed very biased and opinionated that young guys aren't intellectually smart etc etc. I tell her let's dance together and have fun and she straight up puts me down like "No I have to be drunk enough to dance etc". Cmon she is a dancer and wouldn't dance sober? BS! I poke fun of her by saying "well if we dance drunk together your hands will go places it shouldn't" and again she tries to put it down like "No that won't happen trust me". At this point I realize she ain't gonna let me escalate even verbally. We finish of our drinks and food, walk outside a couple of mins, I try holding her hands (not in a creepy or in way that comes across random) but she wasn't even into that. And while walking, even this girl starts mentioning about her hoe phase and how hinge is now diff etc. Idk if time will prob help here with this girl, it's been a couple of hours since I had texted her "text me when you reach home" and I haven't heard back, but I'm not very optimistic with this girl either.
BITCH WTF is wrong with girls in Mumbai? Or on Hinge? Is it just me or anyone else has faced the same at some point? Guys am I cooked for not starting earlier like 18-19 or so? All girls (esp these 23-25 yo) seem to have gone past their hoe phase and now seem to be either clueless or want a decent guy they can toy around with emotions.
And before anyone comes at me saying why don't you screen girls asking "what are you looking for?". I do it. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And guess what kind of responses I get... "Nothing to serious yaa" "Not random but also not serious" Now what do you make of it? Obviously it means she is open to the idea of hooking up or short term relationship given there's good vibe and chemistry. And believe me guys I'm following the exact steps and framework of PWF when it comes to in person meet-ups and escalation, vibing flirting.
So just wanna know if there's something I should be doing more of, or something less of or just go on more dates because yes 2 dates is not enough. (BTW 2 dates in past 2 weeks not in my lifetime) My other matches seem to be very dry like would reply back after 2-3 business days. Some flaked the last moment, some ghosted after very good texting / sexualizing and some have logistics problem. Uggghhh. Now I get why people wanna fly and live the dream american life lol.
