The past couple months whenever I got out with a chick, most of the time when she's back at my place (either she came striahgt over or pulled from public), she does not close. It's like 20% close rate max.  The other night, I went out with a chick in public and after around an hour and a half or so got her to come back to mine. I was touching her leg during the wine, but didn't hold her hand or kiss her at all. When we got back to mine, she wanted a pretty thorough tour of the place, and then she didn't sit on the bed but rather on a chair facing towards me next to the bed (where I sat). We talked for another 15ish minutes before she turned the chair towards me for looking at something on my phone, then another 20-30ish minutes go by before I try to kiss her the first time. Then we kiss again a few minutes later, and I say she should come on the bed. She sits right next to me, and then we make out again, but she ends it this time and I think goes to the bathroom. I go to the bathroom after, and then she's standing next to the heater instead of sitting on the bed and she's got her purse on. I wrap her from the front and we're kidna just hugging, then she turns around and im like grinding on her, but then I think she says she's gonna leave because it's getting late, and I didn't try to stop her. I couldn't kiss her again before she left, she wouldn't really let me. I also tried setting up a second date, and she agreed to the concept of the date, but when I tried setting logistics she said "she had to think about it" like what her vibe was about me. and then she just kinda hugged me when I walked her out. Then she was clearly uninterested after she left. I think in this scenario, I needed to be more dominant and push harder for the close. I think this girl in particular needed to be closed on the first date. There have been similar situations in the past. It's just really frustrating when I do all that work and then at the last step I don't get there and it doesn't work out.  During this date, she was constantly trying to get me to qualify myself to her and being pretty annoying/bratty but not actually a brat, just like "sassy", I found it annoying. I don't think I could seriously date her, which is why I'm annoyed I didn't at least get to bang her. or be the one to reject her.  It's getting so mundane. I either just want a girlfriend or I want getting laid to be extremely easy, cuz getting rejected is fucking annoying lol.

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