I'm like extremely lucky to have the looks, when tinder used to work i had hundred of matches, compliments, and at least 10 first date lays. I moved to Milan last may thinking tinder will work better in a big city but it's just dead now. I'm in Milan so in one of the best cities in the world to approach but approach anxiety is absolutely gonna ruin my life. If this keeps going until i lose my looks i will be fucked. I have girls staring all the time, yesterday for example i was at McDonald's, like every Friday evening there was plenty of young attractive girls that want to grab something after school. There was this group of girls staring at me, they see an attractive guy that looks like a fuck boy, with earrings, tattoo, hat, but i acted like a pussy on the inside and did not approach. They kept staring until i finished my coffee and now I'm so hurt and frustrated because i will lose my looks and get old without fun experiences to remember. What i should've have done in this situation? They were 3 girls, no free table next to them. Approach and ask one of them for ig? I feel it takes an extremely high level of courage, but at the same time i proved to myself i can do it. I approached in the past. My ig also sucks and i still don't have the money for unreal pics, so my brain uses that as an excuse. Young girls like to give ig, not the number. Same thing happens when I'm in the city center next to the cathedral, if a girl stare at me i get self conscious and can't look back at her, which is absurd because they are the best ones to approach. I also star feeling weird when I'm at the mall or walking in the city center looking for tourists or local girls, it's like i start to feel like a predator as if everybody knows what I'm looking for. I also start to think that the girl i approach will know I've been looking for girls all day. If it wasn't for all this i could approach 100 girls a day and get every week in Milan, I'm absolutely wasting and throwing away my life and it hurts. The fact that i have the looks hurts even more

So matched with this girl. She’s in my town (1mile away) for the next few days then going back to uni so limited time. I moved to text thought I did everything well, with her moving towards meeting, good banter etc, slowly sexualised but I feel I missed out a good text or did something a bit wrong somewhere because the way I setup the date it fell off pretty quick I suggested we meet at the gym & she wasn’t sure and then I think I kinda fucked up by reducing all the ambiguity or something and going all logical when she pulled back. What should I do now she’s given me “I’ll have a think about it” and I said “sure why not” sort of vibe? She might reply tomorrow but what is the direction I should take going forward to get her to meet before she goes back?