What is wrong with my texting?
I try to (1) keep it as invested as the girl or less, (2) fun/flirty, and (3) soft close when ready but I seem to get a lot of ghosting on hinge. These girls are cute but the flake rate is ~80%. Anything obvious I'm messing up on?
3 sets of examples attached, with varying levels of investment from the girl from start to finish. I've tried investing even less before but got even more ghosting, which is why my messages are now between 70-100% the length of hers.
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In my honest opinion I feel like this is everything you should avoid. It’s just too much back and forth unnecessarily and it’s not really going anywhere. The escalation seems a bit uncalibrated and there’s no “build up” to it. Also with girl 3 it seems the wrong takeaways/reengagements were used based on the context.
Also I don’t see these texts as being flirty at all. It’s such a friendly, platonic vibe. You can save the getting to know each other for when you have the date. In the meantime your texting should be sweet and to the point.
If you have a look at previous LRs on this forum and compare, I’m afraid the difference is day and night. Sure you can send long texts every now and again but it heavily depends on context and you definitely don’t wanna do so early on in the interaction.
Try to keep it as low effort for the girl as possible also. Short, sweet, playful vibe and then you strike when the time is right.
Thanks but can you give me concrete examples of what you'd say differently?
All depends on context man but for example I would skip the small talk kind of questions. Just add some humor and move things forward progressively. The conversations you’re having seem very logical. Women are more emotional so its not necessarily what you say, but what it subcommunicates.
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your not doing anything majorly wrong. The 2 pointers i would have for you is avoid the random hypothetical questions. And 2, add some flirting and humor into your texting, right now its a bit to much matter of factly. Check out some of my LRs for examples, however even if you have perfect text game, its normal for convos to stall out. Happens to me all the time. All you can do is be persistent.
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Cool, thanks I've read a lot of your work and watched a lot of your videos - really good stuff, so thanks. I tried to start it off with humor (e.g. you're either really good at standing or riding horses, trying to decide the meaning of this, etc) and some flirting down the line (e.g. not bad, we might have potential), but it still stalled out. Are you saying that I should do more flirting/humor and even less personality questions/topics?
Wonder what's the right balance between the flirting/humor and a 'deeper' connection bc I found that when I went too flirty or teasing before, it'll stall out even faster...
Pains me sometimes to lose these girls due to convo stalling bc some of them are literally smoking hot...like hotter than even porn stars
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yeah that would be my recommendation, check some of my LRs for my texting styles however if you find that what you are doing works better then keep doing that. While there are some universal text game principles, theres also cusomization based on each persons personaility.