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My last relationship ended because I cheated on her, the sex was bad so I sorta lost interest and hooked up with new girls behind her back before she found out I brought another girl over and she broke up with me. But I'm thinking I should give a white lie instead because it might make the new girl not trust me and/or insecure about continuing with me. What would be a high value answer to give for the reason when she asks why your ex broke up with you?

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When you go for the number close and she says “add me on snap” but you say text is better whats your whatsapp? But then she suggests IG instead. How do you explain to her that you don’t wanna follow her, you want the number to meet in real life? Or do you really just chat on IG and set up the meet there? I feel like that’s even worse than just keeping the convo on Tinder

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Its been 4 days and she didnt respond. Did I come off too try hard? What should I have said instead?

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I asked "What are your plans for today" and she says she is going to lay out at the pool at her hotel. I feel like I can get her out after she's done since it won't be too late, so then I soft closed her: Me: "Do you like wine?" Her: Why are you gonna buy some for me? Me: "Sure. We should split a bottle of wine on my balcony" Her: Ok well what are your plans today? How do I finish this close? My goal is to meet her after she's free, but I don't want to say it like that. Might come across as too needy. What would you say to show that I want us to meet up later in the evening when we are both free?

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I feel like she gave me a good positive first reply but after that the vibe kinda went away is it because I changed the topic away from talking about her hair? It feels like the convo just became dry when she just responded with “Yes I am!” because I wanted to get off topic and branch off into other parts of getting to know her but she doesn’t ask me anything to branch off from and so I was wondering how I can switch it up from here? I’m trying to avoid the typical what do you do for work topics and would rather talk about travel or adventures instead

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Im traveling to a city where I know this girl I hooked up with but we haven’t talked in like a year so i was thinking of opening her with “Are ya still alive” or “Hey stranger!” to test if she responds, then if she responds text “I’m in your city! Let’s meet and catch up!” so she knows I’m back in her city and try to set up a meet. I feel like if she doesn’t respond or says no then I didn’t want to waste any time having a meaningless convo with her. I want it to be a spontaneous thing. Any advice on if this is a good strategy or if I should fix my texts to send? My main goal is to gauge if she’s down to meet cause if not then i will try to meet someone else while im there.

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If she randomly sends a picture of her in a bikini or other sexy pictures how do you respond by giving her the validation shes looking for without going too over the top?

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How do you defend yourself when she tells you all the bad things he say about you (they are co-workers) but yet he never even met you before? Only going off his assumptions by your pictures and making up shit like don’t trust him, he looks like a player, hes gonna hurt you, he isnt serious about you, etc. and then she comes and tells you “im not sure if i can trust you” now when i didn’t even do anything or meet those guys

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First I just wanted to say the pwf product changed my life. I just wanted to share this text exchange and get your opinion on some missed opportunities I could have used. I know I am not that good yet but I feel that I am so much better than before I discovered pwf, so I thank you for this. I would love to have honest feedback on this text exchange Few things I think I did good: Giving her space and a chance to invest and not forcing her to reply by double texting (which definitely would lower my value) Withdrew my attention when she said shes busy. I could tell she didn't reply to me after this to test how I would react after she said she was busy. I love this because now I know for a fact that she wants to meet me to fuck (she even said shes getting waxed) and not just for a quickie 1-2 hours to eat Lunch together. I will always avoid meeting a girl to eat from now on. Straight to my place or nearby bar or bust! After she gave an excuse about being busy I just said "Aww ok" and didn't text the whole day until she replied and pretty much rewarded me saying "I just want to say goodnight to the sweetest guy". I don't think she's experienced a guy doing this What I did wrong & got stuck on: I think I should stop with the good morning text and either she messages me first or I send a happy monday meme instead. Normally I don't do this but she is giving me compliance/IOIs so should I look at it as rewarding her? When I went sexual, I think she didn't know what to say, she fell asleep and then replied to me late saying "I wish I can be with you right now" but I already fell asleep at this time so I replied the next morning. Since she fell asleep when I sent the sexualized text about kissing her neck and shoulders. It must have been that boring it made her fall asleep pretty much. Heres where things get confusing for me. She asked me to sleep over on Sat night and I didn't really know how to respond. I mean part of me wants her to, but I think it is too fast for sleepovers. I didn't want to say its too fast and then she tries to use it against me and say "then we shouldnt have sex its too fast." But I think sleepovers are for more relationship type. And Im trying to have a lover frame not a boyfriend. I didn't know how to communicate this so I just said we'll talk more about it in person and scheduled the meet for Sunday instead. How would you have handled it without making her feel bad that I don't want her to sleep over? Or is this something I should consider for us to sleep together and spend the morning together? And when she wrote that long message about her story getting waxed, I didn't really know what to say. I probably missed a big opportunity here to sexualize. I just said "Getting nice and smooth for our date I see" and she tried to play it off as she normally does it for good hygiene but I know she's doing it to prepare for our love date which is amazing because I plan to give her multiple oral orgasms. Should I have mentioned this when she said this?

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I'm not the type to go to bars and drink, I've been trying to work on getting girls to come straight to my place. My usual routine for dates is always meeting for some coffee/tea or ramen at the shopping center down the street (walking distance to mine) to see what the vibe is like, seed the pull and if we're into each other I'll lead her back to my place but if the vibe is not there we end up using a FTC because we feel we're not into each other and usually say "i gotta meet my friends later" just so we have an out to end the date and go on our own way... Lately I've been really trying to use Tinder and work on just bringing girls straight to my place from Tinder. Not actually going out on food dates like I have been doing. This girl seemed down to meet me she even said she would try to make me love her "in other ways" so I figured she was DTF, however, she didn't seem ok with coming straight to my place so I recommended the shopping center next to mine, but then she recommended going to a bar later in the night, which turned me off a bit. Because logistics would not be in my favor and would be harder to pull unless she's really DTF. So if we were gonna meet I really wanted her to just come over to my place, so I asked "if we have chemistry when we meet are you ok with having a glass of wine at my new condo" if she was down, I would have met her at the bar... but the fact she said "Probably not" turned me off a bit, and it kinda killed the vibe and made me feel like I didn't want to waste my time going out to the bar to meet her. Should I have just met her at the bar anyways and tried to pull after an hour and if she wasn't down or kept giving me resistance to going back to my condo, then how would I end the date? Just tell her "Well I gotta meet some friends later so I gotta go" and leave the date like this? Could I have done anything better with the text to have got her to come straight to my place?

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