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I won't translate the entire convo, just the last few messages. I'll put what I would reply at the end. This is on feeld btw. Her: sounds like an amazing plan. Let's see, convince me that I can trust you Me: what are you worried about? That I might be a sk? Her: yes a little Me: mmm don't worry about that I got bored of killing years ago Her: ghosts Me: if you are into that (bad text ik, I just couldn't think of a good follow up, any recommendations here for the future would be appreciated too!) Me: and the award for best texter .... Her: if I don't reply it's maybe because at the moment I don't feel like talking or meeting anyone Me: that means now you do ;) Her: maybe, but I was not convinced about how you dealt with me not replying and those things Posible replies: You are right, I'm so sorry for blowing up your phone with a wall of text (not sure if the irony is clear, might backfire) ??? After rereading this, seems like she might be the more "logical" type so I should have addressed the safety concern way differently...

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I laughed out loud, seems so silly to me. But obviously if I reply like that she is going to think I'm a dick and if I take it seriously ill be reacting....

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Messages in Spanish but will summarize here: Her: hey handsome Me: hey honeybun what are you up to (yes Ik shit fuck reply) Her: no reply Me: dw its Not a trick question Her: sorry I'm not on here a lot text me on ig Me: I have ig for work don't mix it with pleasure u can text me on Whatsapp Her: oh, well it was only to see you a little more Me: hahaha you can always ask me for a pic but dw you'll see me on our date Her: so you are super sure we are going on a date? Replies: we'll see + qualifying question (like give me the basics) yes ???

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Hey guys! Lately I have been getting lots of hinge matches that don't reply to the opener. I'm wondering your thoughts on how to handle it. The obvious is wait 2-3 days & reopen but wanted to know if there is any other approach

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Honestly I don't know what I was thinking. Probably that the girl handnt replied to the opener so didn't think too much about the reengage. On her profile it said that she has the same birthday as Harry Potter. I was gonna follow up by saying it would be funny to curse at her parents for not waiting a little longer. But I realised it wasn't that funny of a text so bailed...

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Summary Matched on hinge. Convo was fine. Got her number set the meet but then she got sick the day of our date. Then she went back to the US for Xmas. Had to keep the convo warm until then. Over all it was pretty easy. Dificulties Initial shit tests Keeping the convo warm Staying the course Take aways Passing shit tests is not as hard as it seems. In this case, her's were trying to get me to qualify.So I just disagree & amplify then flip it on her. Don't agree to bad logistics. She offered to meet the day after she canceled near her. But I could tell she was into me so I decided to wait several weeks rather than accept bad logistics Don't shoot yourself in the foot She asks if we should meet by the center or at my place. Just confidently say "my place" without giving an explanation. if she needs it she will give resistance Building comfort during the date even if the girl is really into you otherwise you risk LMR. Wand vibrators are amazing It has saved my ass many times. This time it allowed me to give her several additional orgasms. The Date I pick her up at the bus stop & we walk back to my place. Start by giving her her a hug & two kisses (in the spanish way) First thing she says to me is "I mean, you are so attractive" so I know its a done deal. -I stick out my arm & lead her into walking arm in arm with me. We talk about her day & mine We get to my place I take off my shoes & instruct her to do the same. (This is so they aren't a problem later) Going for the kiss She says something I like, I go for a hug. Our faces get quite close & she "melts" so I know its safe. I kiss her once then inmediately pull away & say ill go get the wine. Rest is simple We sit on the couch & talk about shit. When she says something I like I give her a kiss or hug as a reward. We talk for about 1h. She actually talks about a few dificult topics which allows me to talk about some hardships I have had in the past (this builds deep connection). Then I start making out with her then go from there The Sex I always eat a girl out the first time. This girl takes a while to cum, but when she does she cums over and over. So she is already spent. I fuck her for a while, take out the wand, fuck her with it & she cums again like mad. Ending Notes Afterwards she would tell me she was decided not to sleep with me on this date. So I am assuming she would have given LMR if I hadn't taken my time & allowed for comfort to build. edit: forgot to mention I seeded the second date after we had sex by asking if she watched TV & suggesting we watch something next time.

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Posting here because these are the types of girls I struggle with, someone I managed to get some investment out of nothing but now got that reply. Thoughts on how to handle these types of low investment girls? (I have watched alex's video on this but still find it hard Thoughts on replies?

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Photos are of her profile for reference. Convo just started. Me (to the photo with graffiti bg): I can't tell if you are innocent or an absolute baddie Her: Hm elaborate First time I got a reply like this, thoughts on best way to approach it?

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First image is last one, so slide to the left. The first image youll see is the last one Edit: see comment for update For context: As you can see she had agreed to come to my place if I ubered her to me & back, but she asked to FT. During the call she told me she handn't decided if she wanted to come & had told me she would just to get me to FT. The FT was an hour long, and she was super testy all the way through. My bad having such a long call but I was genuinely enjoying dealing with her tests even though I didn't do a very good job of it tbh. After the call she told me she would think about coming, I gave her 15m and she didn't text me so I send her the message saying we should meet some other time. I am pretty sure this is done, but would still love your suggestions as to what I could have done better text game wise & if there is anything that can be done now. PS: its a really long convo

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I'll only do first dates at of near my place. This is for many reasons: Better logistics and therefore chance of closing on first date I already have the dates/activities prepared Since a lot of girls are late etc I waste less time & effort 4... I have been asked a few times the reason I won't meet them somewhere else. And I have always deflected the question, because if I explain it feels like we will start arguing about my reasons (also can't really say that one of the reasons is better logistics). How do you guys think this should be handled?

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