Hotest Girl I ever matched with, what could I have done better? Is it salvageable?
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
First image is last one, so slide to the left. The first image youll see is the last one
Edit: see comment for update
For context:
As you can see she had agreed to come to my place if I ubered her to me & back, but she asked to FT. During the call she told me she handn't decided if she wanted to come & had told me she would just to get me to FT.
The FT was an hour long, and she was super testy all the way through. My bad having such a long call but I was genuinely enjoying dealing with her tests even though I didn't do a very good job of it tbh. After the call she told me she would think about coming, I gave her 15m and she didn't text me so I send her the message saying we should meet some other time.
I am pretty sure this is done, but would still love your suggestions as to what I could have done better text game wise & if there is anything that can be done now.
PS: its a really long convo
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15 Posts (+3), 479 Cmts (+240)
Next time try to post the screen shots in order. That was a bit confusing.
This girl seems like a nightmare. I would just move on. But if you're that willing, on a hailmary, just be straight up and ask her on a date and meet her in public like she wants but don't go into more conversation and wasting time.
As far as the text conversation, this lasted entirely too long. She was giving you so much shit and you didn't handle it the best. The sexual conversation went into too much detail, almost leaving her nothing for the date and her imagination as well.
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
The screenshots are in reverse order, not sure why this page uploads them like this. I could rearrange them but you can still read them if you flip left rather than right & rearranging 21 screenshots is a little.
Is there any specific spots you thought I messed up? I don't think the sexual conversation went into too much detail, since this girl seems like a prosub. Convo is too long yes, most of it is just a frame battle about where to meet
15 Posts (+3), 479 Cmts (+240)
I just think it's a combination of several things, like the ones I mentioned, that all added up.
Now that I went back, just in the first few screenshots you used 4 smiley/winky faces. (she didn't use any) so avoid that. Really only time to add an emoji is to lighten the message , specifically adding the smirk emoji ( š) but definitely not smiley faces
She was being VERY bratty. I think you continuously let that go on instead of calling her out/or passing her shit tests, you just kept being nice/accommodating so she kept taking advantage of that. Which honestly, the first thing that comes to mind is this girl must be 18 years old but regardless she's also extremely immature sounding. So your game wouldn't come off as ineffective if this chick was a normal girl not playing stupid games.
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
Update for this since people asked. Called her Thursday night. No answer haven't heard back. Will text her at some point to thank her for introducing me to airsoft but assuming this is dead unfortunately
18 Posts (+0), 57 Cmts (+19)
I would end the convo halfway by suggesting meeting somewhere in the middle. your game is solid. A very long convo ( 1 month of texting) + a bonus video call killed her interest.
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
I won't agree to meet somewhere with bad logistics. Like I told her, if that means we dont meet then so be it. Tbh I fucked up the call, it was a bit of an uphill battle but if handleded better I could have gotten her to Uber to my place
18 Posts (+0), 57 Cmts (+19)
I understand what ure saying, to me if she was the hottest I wouldn't mind anyways you do know your way in this and I have learned a lot from your posts. Keep it up!
32 Posts (+21), 576 Cmts (+276)
yeah man, when a girl gives 2 push back on meeting at home, I'd just recommend going to a legit spot near your place. I wouldn't have offered a walk as thats too low investment imo.
does she still have you matched on hinge? if so you can hit her with the "and the award for the best texter goes to..."
otherwise maybe give her a video call at evening hours on a weekday and hope she is bored enough to pick up
but most likely, just move on
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
I would normally but she didn't drink, that is why the walk. I could have offered a bar where I go to play pool I guess. You think that would have been better?
Yes still matched on hinge. I actually thought that if I tried again I would do one of two things, either video call her & see if she picks up or send her a message thanking her for getting me into airsoft (I found out about it through her now going with a bunch of friends).
But yea, most likely move on
32 Posts (+21), 576 Cmts (+276)
yeah pool is better than walk but could have been ice cream, tea, coffee, etc too anything thats normal.
anyways, keep us updated, GL