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Not OLD. Small Town random meet, on a Friday night where I got cancelled (rescheduled actually, all good). So...12 days ago. She reached out proactively once to basically say that her creepy old Dad Facebook stalked me. She seems cool and normal, but the rest is here. I think she could've come seen me last weekend if she really wanted to, I've probably complicated things for her and probably am pushing the guy she's seeing into action vicariously. Feedback wanted.

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I posted two long threads on her already. Sent the hinge message I meant to send, and she responded. Translate away, bros.

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Credit to Julien, best personal growth coach out there imo 1) She loves sex. LOVES fucking. More than I do. Look at her in the eye or imagine her in my mind, and remember this is true, no matter what. 2) Offer value. Show genuine interest. Give personal anecdotes I find amusing. Bring the fun carefreeness, passion. Be at cause, create the connection. 3) Be real, let my authenticity shine through. Embrace my weirdness while calibrating relatability. Relaxed, no filter, this is me. Here's what turns me on, interests me. 4) Man to woman. Yeah I reached out/approached you. Yeah I'm flirting with you. Yeah I have sexual desire & I fuckin own that shit. What you gonna do about it ;) 5) Give love. Let her be who she is. Let go & give her the opportunity to give back if she wants. If not, best wishes. And if she flakes, is nasty, disrespects me - block, delete, back turn, bye. No more attention. My boundaries, act of self love.

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My previous post has the details. Honestly I'm strongly guessing she blocked me at some point Wednesday night, a la "well if he's not gonna text me the next day then fuck this guy I'll just go out with someone else" Thanks to Guy is a guy, hey trouble, and JenYu for the previous feedback. Still matched on hinge. Thinking tomorrow I send this hinge message "I genuinely enjoyed last Tuesday night with you. I definitely want to see you again, and no expectations on my end. Sent you a couple of texts, obv didn't hear back so just putting my cards on the table here"

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At End of Hinge conversation, she had taken 3 days to get back to me confirming that she wanted to meet Tuesday night. She was very much of the mindset of screw a lot of texting, let's meet irl. She was kind of thick and smelled like hippie patchouli, but I felt genuine attraction and she definitely did...when I kissed her at multiple venues, I always broke it off first and she was still leaning in for more. Lots of touching. Referring to "us" and "we should totally ( this and that) together". Closed down 2nd venue at 2am. In her car, wild makeouts and feeling each other up. It's so hot that I hadn't even been thinking sex tonight, but gently suggested it "um ..we could go back to your place if you want" and she smiled and said 'i don't think we should tonight ' and I agreed "yeah it's a first date, we should save something for later". Makeout continued for a minute then I broke it off with her still leaning in and I said goodnight...almost fell asleep in the car lol and texted her the šŸ”„ thing when I got home at almost 3am. It just seemed so certain she was down to hangout again that I did the last text yesterday at 2pm. I'm surprised she hasn't responded yet and am seeking advice on what to do now.

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Known her for a month and a half. Smashed the first date in her SUV. she withheld sex on date 2. Date 3, sex again. Got to know each other well. First week we couldn't meet was legit family stuff on my end that she could verify. Then the passive aggression starts. "We should do something without drinking" I said cool and scheduled an evening walk and nope she had to work too late that time. Ok, so pub trivia it was...with drinks obviously. Fast forward to this bullshit. And she blew me off for brewing (alcohol!) with friends. Ok whatever. Already fucked you twice sweetheart go pound sand. Oh btw when she was drink on date 2 she referred to herself, vis a vis her older sister, as a "loser". Yes you are.

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This is the foreign girl who met me at an Irish pub last Friday after like 30 texts back and forth, kept trying to push 8:30 to 7 pm, I finally agreed to 7:30 and was on time, she shows up 15 minutes late(!) And "not her fault", of course...but then we had a great time even tho she only drank free water for 3:hours occupying a seat at the bar. Great parking lot make out. she was hot, one of my acquaintances who was there keeps gushing about her. She works 7 days a week and, very annoyingly, is trying to establish that she just might flake (cancel) at any time if she's too tired. like a guy should just accept that is her frame. With her foreign background, that may be semi legit (she thinks men should pay for women, buy them food on 1st dates, but again foreign so it doesn't seem like a parasite mindset, just traditional)...but also seems super narcissistic and inconsiderate of my time, like I'll be standing by not making other plans while she reserves the right to cancel. At least she's being up front about it days in advance, she's not a horrible chick, just very high maintenance and needs a lot of hand holding to meet up. but the lack of respect or even basic consideration for my time is not ok with me. Advice would be great

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I think she had "just joined" yesterday or Monday. Had a great 3 or 4 back and forths but stalled out around 3pm yesterday, she didn't respond to my answer which wasn't a question. Then today she's changed her main profile pic and another pic. And not responded. I figure I gotta keep going or she'll forget about me, especially being brand new and hot. So I double texted with this. Let me know your feedback.

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Think this was a good text to set the expectation that I don't intend to go silent and ignore her for 6 days, but not too much, not too presumptuous, good balance imo

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