Not OLD. Small Town random meet, on a Friday night where I got cancelled (rescheduled actually, all good). So...12 days ago.
She reached out proactively once to basically say that her creepy old Dad Facebook stalked me. She seems cool and normal, but the rest is here. I think she could've come seen me last weekend if she really wanted to, I've probably complicated things for her and probably am pushing the guy she's seeing into action vicariously.
Feedback wanted.
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Dont out of the blue text "hey wanna go out tonight?" the chance of a girl being free and being down to meet up so spontaneously is low
90% of time she will reject your offer and you dont want that negative compliance.
Thats also why we ask "whats ur schedule like" instead of "hey u free monday or thursday?" cuz if she cant make neither of those 2 days it creates negative compliance and just complicates things. Other then that u did nothing wrong, its just that there is another guy so you know how that goes🤷♂️
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Good point, I was thinking "ah it's a Monday night, I just got rescheduled, so what the hell" but didn't consider the negative compliance likelihood. I did a you feeling spontaneous tonight 2 weeks ago with a bumble match, she was down, we met for "a quick drink" (my suggestion) which became closing down the bar and sex all night at her place. So, hmm, something to consider but 🤷
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
Responding to your edit, last part specifically:
There is zero doubt in my mind that she finds me more attractive than whoever she's fucking but won't yet commit to her. That's clear with her "full disclosure" message. So I think that my presence, kinda showing up in her life is forcing the issue for her, and really "him" whoever he is. I could just back tf off which is probably the right move, and maybe she will come chase, but I don't know if that's the power move here. Thoughts?
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Well why tf would she even tell u about that other dude.. because of "not 100% single but certainly not taken" it could be that she likes you and almost wants to show off like hey dude im a high value girl a lot of guys want me but im certainly not taken so play your cards right and you can be the one who ends up with me
Either that or shes in love with the other dude and is legit just nice enough to give u a heads up, impossible to tell whats going on in her mind man