Yeah I like your response better, thanks man. It's not 'too much', following her lack of response. The just joined girls rarely if ever work out for me, especially if they're really new to Hinge. they get bombarded plus the emotional and mental side of dealing with the messages, undoubtedly some crazies, getting triggered, getting nervous...I just don't have the answers for this. My intent with the follow up 3-question blitz was to convey, "hey I like you so far and this is a fun Convo but I need a few more deets before closing you, what ya got?"

Also the response Jan thought could be better, she actually gave that one a heart. I'm always looking for ways to genuinely connect because that builds real comfort, which in my experience leads to actual dates

Oh ya, no response so far. No more updates to her profile either. Lord knows how many damn messages she got swamped with lol

Thanks man! Yeah I didn't respond to the soup season thing at all, just the 2nd big paragraph there since I had a legit childhood connection to that place, so kind of a light remark on that experience...but great idea on how to take her long message there and reframe it in a "building our story" direction. Always trying to figure out that balance between flirty man to woman and genuineness, comfort etc. Especially with the older women. Got unmatched by leopard print lady "Erica" yesterday and that was IMO perfect game I did there. My hunch is she looked at it the next day and was like "too playerish. He's very attractive to me but I'm terrified of being pumped and dumped". Any thoughts on that?

All about calibrating your response though.

The other girl went more into detail about the kissing and said she likes a great make out session. That’s why it worked there.

Here this chick simply said she was a good kisser, so I think the “your lips look...” line does work better because it’s keeping it simple