It could mean a few things depending on how sexual it got. It could mean she's not sexually interested if there was no sexual chemistry or if you escalated a lot but didnt' end up closing, then she has buyer's remorse (you've laid all your cards out on the table and there's no now nowhere for the interaction to go except sex).
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Thanks for the response. It got very hot and steamy. You're the 3rd more experienced guy to say it was a point of no return thing, which I can't remember getting rejected on before. She was super into the making out. I pulled away most of the time, she was still leaning in. Then as you see I wrote no expectations on my end. I don't understand why she wouldn't wanna fuck me. The logistics weren't there, tho they could very easily be on a 2nd date. A car fuck was not safe in that area. We had awesome chemistry, and she says she's dating casually til she finds the right one....unless she felt that way a while back when she wrote that profile, and now she can't bear to get potentially pumped and dumped again
Yeah could very well be you gave off too much of a fuckboy vibe. It seems like you know you give them off as well. I've had same issues in the past. Sometimes it's hard to resist throwing out that prizing frame haha. But yeah too many prizing frames/spikes on a date is really inconducive. Also make sure you're going in some deeper investment topics.
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"I agree we had a fun time the other night! But I don't feel like it's a love match..."
LIFE SKILLS TRANSLATION:
"You're a lot of fun and I prob woulda fucked you if logistics were there, but you coulda met any girl & done the same charismatic, cad energy, let's burn the night down "thing" you did with me & I know my profile says I'm dating casually until I find the right one but Im at the point where I can't tolerate getting pumped and dumped again and that's probably what you'll do"
Am I wrong?
I did Chaz's follow up, but by all rights she could unmatch me at any point and be totally "justified" even in the "moral high ground" sense, she was good enough to respond in the first place. See what happens.
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idk the context of this, but you seem kind of needy here(with a couple text and reaching out on hinge message too), also guessing you didn't close? if so, both are the problem imo
I would give more push back with something like
"shouldn't it take more than one date to get that conclusion (smirk emoji)"
But honestly prob move on
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Thank you, I'll try it.