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Just came back from a sex-positive city (Seattle, Washington). Running a sexually dominant profile on the major apps led to many a girl asking to come straight over to my hotel room for sex, skipping the wine and romantic patio altogether in place of a quick 5-minute vibe check phone call as they drove to mine. But the question these sex-positive women kept asking and my reason for making this post is: "Do you practice aftercare?" I feel as men we are so caught up getting our orgasm(s) and now making sure we give the woman as many orgasms as possible using the patent pending "ultimate sexual experience" techniques that we are forgetting what comes afterward and losing prospective girlfriends or fuckbuddies and then coming here to ask what went wrong when we only need to follow at least 3 of the 5 steps/activities in any order after sex in to better ensure retention: Having ice packs or heat packs nearby to place on areas that ache her after having her strung up in various sex positions, placed on her vagina or ass if you had been spanking it so hard your hand print is now on her ass. Better yet if you happen to have a jacuzzi or bathtub to soak it which leads to point 2... Showering/ bathing together: washing each other and using her frilly girl soap/shampoo, loofah on her, and taking the time to slowly massage the soap/shampoo on her body/hair. This 100% of the time leads to more sex, at the very least a blowjob if her vagina/anus aches too much for more penetration, just make sure to point the shower head at the wall or something so she doesn't drown lol. Having a snack/drink for her nearby at the ready. This works wonders at retention if you are willing to be the guy who will go the extra mile and ask before the date a seemingly innocent question on what her favorite snack/drink is. Then suddenly having it on the nightstand for her when she comes back from the bathroom or something after sex. I'd unconsciously do this by taking the girl for food after sex to some 24/7 diner, which also works. But let me tell you that specifically for this one girl having the specific dumplings she mentioned as well as the specific brand of sparkling water she wanted on standby post sex drove her over the moon for me. Cuddling/Pillow talk/Massage/Nap: Since these all can reasonably take place in bed I will lump them all together. Pro-tip: no one likes a wet bed after sex, if you can have a full or at least a partial set of clean sheets ready to put on the bed it will work wonders and she will be so grateful to help you put the bed in order. Anyway, yes you want to cuddle your one-night stand/fuck buddy/prospective girlfriend at the very least for 30-45 minutes afterward in a pretty platonic way actually, not trying to finger her and get things going again for another round but with gentle forehead kisses, letting her put her head on your chest as you cuddle up so she can listen to your heartbeat (girls love this for some reason), butt rubs, lite back scratches, slow caresses, etc...I mean you can try to play with clit slowly and see if she's down for another round but if she fidgets as soon as you touch it or is moving your hand somewhere else you already know what the fuck is up and need to calm you libido. So for pillow talk, talk about funny things about you or what has happened to you. I see so many guys tell self-deprecating stories about themselves as an opener or messages on Tinder when this pillow talk is the time to be a bit silly and tell those stories where you weren't exactly the badass that just tore that pussy up moments ago. This will add more layers to yourself with the woman and is especially helpful for bonding with them if you want them on as a fuck buddy/girlfriend. I give self-deprecating stories as an example as telling silly stories about myself is what works for me, but talking about almost anything works, I would not talk about future dates directly but indirectly with future projections e.g. she tells you she secretly likes Dungeons & Dragons and hopes you won't judge her for it, and you're reassuring her and you've never played but are down to learn someday soon. Sex recaps and highlights: talk with her about things like when she enjoyed most, when you enjoyed, what you don't want to try again, what you do want to try, etc I feel like a lot of this stuff is common sense, but if it helps just one person do better retaining his female(s) I feel I've done something helpful

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Lost my full-time job and had no prospects of finding anything meaningful anytime soon. I'm now my mom's live-in caregiver, being paid by the state, and federal programs. How do I pitch this in the most positive light when asked about it on dates or on apps?

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She’s in rehab for alcohol. Which I don’t mind at all about, but I still have to acknowledge her concern. Never had a girl embarrassed to continue our conversation so posting here for help.

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A woman flirted with me at work in a professional setting, I didn’t escalate. Saturday she finds me on tinder, we exchange numbers, and by text I propose meeting for wine on the beach and see the chemistry. I assume I screwed up here because she stopped responding and set notifications to silent. She was probably already ready for me to come to her place and bang. Not sure what to double text her after the mandatory 48hrs, I’m thinking one of the memes I uploaded

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Had a first date with this girl, it was aight. Hung out at the dog park, she brought her dogs (ones a service animal) and I brought my dog. She brings up meeting up again giving me her off days. I mention a possible date idea without our dogs and she shuts down, her concern is that her dogs are her babies and wants them on our dates as a dealbreaker. What would you do? I ain’t never encountered this before So to recap, she’s into dating me but her dogs are going to have to be on those dates for an indefinite amount of dates

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When Latina women are asking you where are you from originally (Where are u from) or where are you from they're not asking where you were born or where you grew up, they're asking where are you right now to know if you're in their city to date/hookup. So what city are you currently in player? I'm making this post because it's a little hiccup I've been running into recently.

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New girl; things going well on text and she throws this curve ball. This is another “moment of truth” time I’m thinking, if I buy into her frame of not calling him bd I’m donezo. Now if I stopped giving I’d say “okay dear, sperm donor then”

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Pictures inside •Met K on tinder, the only rough spots where the convo stalled was when she asked where I'm from I said test tube (changing this to the cornfield for a sequence I'm working on), Hablas englais (she teased me about this on our date, I'll be spelling it 'ingles' from now on), and when I asked for the number she went for the snap to which I countered with Alex's How to Get A Girls Number (Don't Settle for Snapchat or Instagram) & the more recent Send This Message If She Won’t Give You Her Number (Steal This Line!) videos •Over text one thing I want you to keep in mind is her mentioning 'two coworkers' this seemed like a minor detail but became important on the date •The only hangup over text was the day of the date she had to postpone things a few hours, I was trying to not be a "Yes man" and just be ok with her delay but I didn't want to be an asshole either so I walked a fine line ultimately saying "curious to see how you'll make it up to me. And she did..she used that time to shave her legs, and pussy, do her makeup and everything and even... •..Put her kids down for bed, when she arrived the first thing out of her mouth was that she was late putting her kids to bed and waiting on the sitter. it was the first I heard about her having kids but all I said was "Ah you're a milf" to which she liked hearing •So we sat on my couch and I told her to tell me about her day so I could continue using a tactic I picked up from the "kill your inner loser" website specifically his take on "what I do on my dates": which is while she's explaining her mundane day I'm listening but also breaking the "touch barrier" and then escalating to kissing her and making out unless she gives me an objection (which there was none she was actually thrilled by what I was doing) but while listening and kissing she brought up those "2 coworkers" she sees over at work again who are male and nearing 40 to which I teased saying something about her dreaming of having a 3-way with them or something to which she laughed and said no way they're too old and gross. •So we had those margs, made out more. And I could tell she was into all this because she kept doing this adorable thing where she would look me in the eyes and she'd move her eyebrows up and down. And I'm laughing saying, "Yo! do you know you're doing that with your eyebrows? And she says No, what? and I do it and she starts laughing with embarrassment saying she didn't know her face was doing that, but I pull her close and say it's adorable and I like it then continue making out and I pull her hair back to expose her neck to bite, kiss, & lick, that's when she started soft moaning and heavy breathing. Then I told her we were going to the bedroom, lead her there, and pushed her onto the bed. I won't go into super detail but after the 1st round or two she did what I only can assume was testing me, both of us out of breath she asks me to go get her some water (this is where I told you to keep in mind those coworkers she oversees) I say yeah sure it's in the fridge help yourself, babe, she says wait aren't you gonna get it for me? And I tell her no you have two legs get it yourself (because in my mind I'm thinking she's wanting to see that now since we are hooking up if I'll be like those coworkers who do stuff for her all day and placate myself to her every need to keep her happy to continue hooking up) and I held that frame of if she wants water get it your damn self woman. And instead of getting water, she jumped on me into an even heavier make-out session into sex where she started performing even better and doing things she hadn't been doing previously, it got out an audible "Whoa" from me I was so surprised. So I know I must've done something right 'right then and there that changed things for the better. •Anyway we went for several more rounds of fun until we both couldn't anymore, I was convinced her screams would draw the authorities at one point (reminds me that I need to buy a sexy gag). She had to be at work in the morning and I started teasing her that I was her new boss and aggressively sexually harassing her which she loved and almost lead to another round •So I saw her to her car and she texted when she got home and texted her the infamous that was 🔥🔥 •Don't want it to just be a one night stand but it's seeming that way since she hasn't texted since then, I'll probably rewatch Alex's How to Keep a Girl Interested in You (Casual or Serious) again to set up the next date but I know this weekend will be a no go with it being easter Would enjoy hearing y'all's feedback good or bad

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Saturday, April 9th

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