I’ve been talking to this girl since September 2025 and we hit it off idk connection was crazy at first. We live in different states, and after about six months we finally met briefly in Houston. We hugged, kissed, and talked about traveling together in the future. Since then we’ve stayed in touch mostly through Instagram, to be fair ive pulled back because i knew i cant really visit her often rn.  A few months ago I brought up taking a trip together. She initially said she’d be down to travel around early July because she wanted to get over her travel anxiety. However, she ended up taking a couple of trips with her family instead. More recently I asked about Puerto Rico, and she replied “two weeks?” but never followed through. Last weekend she told me, “I’m in a shit position right now. I’ll let you know this coming week.” It’s now been about a week, she hasn’t reached out, and she’s been posting stories about getting ready for her birthday and spending time with friends. I’m wondering if she’s planning a birthday trip without telling me or if she’s simply not that interested. She has randomly brang up taking trips w me before randomly and i declined a few times. Tomorrow I have a date with an attractive woman. I’m debating whether I should post a subtle Instagram story showing I’m out with another woman—not to make anyone jealous, but to signal that I’m moving forward instead of waiting around. Given everything that’s happened, do you think posting that story is a good idea, or should I just leave it alone? I feel like shes going to fk me and go on trip w her friend. idk u think shes genuine? will posting another girl get her attn? Also her 38 sec voice memo was interesting she she answered my question but abruptly ends with: “oh yeah but its boring asf so you should go with somebody” 
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Okay so I met this chick we been talking for about a month and shes recently started to loosen up around me were very playful. Shell let me smack her ass really hard I kiss her and we fight sometimes even play slap eachother but she refuses to have sex with me. She openly told me she talking to another guy shes known for 10 years and she hangs out with her guy friend who she dated before. I want to strat having sex with her but she refuses to go back to her room or come to my crib. I tried kissing on her neck and behind her ear but she said thats her weakness and shell push away. She told me shes afraid of someone having sex with her and ghosting her as this has happened to her before and she is a little older too 35 im 30 so its not a huge difference. I actually really like her personality and bring around her but I want to be able to sexually enjoy her as well.. what do you guys think? She says the other guy she speaks to has helped her throughout her life alot and she has a strong connection with him and cant let go. Idk I know most women have mutliple guys in their lives and I have to accept that im not trying to wife her up but I want her to open up to sex. I literally smack her ass and we tongue kiss but she wont spread then legs its weird what yall think?
Hello, So I met this girl at a mall off a cold approach and I started texting her.. she was hesitant in the beginning but ended up giving me her number weird enough cause we both had a liking for music. So we been texting back and forth for a couple weeks cause our schedules are both hectic ended up hanging out on a sunday but she wasnt receptive to any advances to sexualize. Then I ended up texting her back after and she started investing a little more even to initiate a another day to hang out. I told her lets link at my crib unfortunately my house is occupied by family memebers at the moment so I forgot to let her know. That night I contacted her and said we should link at her crib ill pull up and we can hang out somewhere.. so I did that. I ended up driving around for starbucks with her and then we parked outside her crib I figured if it got heated well go back to her place. I started touching her and I went in for the kiss she bloked it so I resorted to just ignoring her and acting like im texting a chick.. She then started telling me she doesn’t kiss until their is a connection but then I started asking her when the last time she hooked up abd she said 2 months ago it was a one night stand. So I am confused so I asked her if she finds me attractive and she gave me a neutral nod like a forced yes nothing genunine. Then suprisingly a chick calls me but shes a friend and she sees the caller id. She says who that was and I told her its a friend and why do you care cause you dont like me anyways. She nodded and said theirs another guy im talking to as well, I didnt know if she saying that to piss me off for the chick calling me or she really talking to someone else. So I just ended the night and told her im going home to sleep, she said “wow your kicking me out, I said no I just have work”. So I am assuming she using me for my time and energy im planning on not texting her back.. Its weird she would invest 3 weeks of texting and hanging out with me twice and not want to kiss.. idk I kind of like her but what do you guys think I should do??? I already kind of messed up by driving to her place instead of having her come to mine which I usually do.. but do u think shes just using me?? Cause all she does is ask me questions about why guys do certain things and why you cheat etc. and how she had s bad past her bf kicked her out. Shes older too 33 but hot.
what she tryna say?? I texted her back after our 1st date we been talkin for about 2 and a half weeks.. then she replied saying this. Sounds like shes bored... we had a semi okay date but I didnt close with sex unfortunately no intamacy she was being conservative.. should I ghost it?
Have a question on what I should do.. I don’t believe in going to drive and pick up the girl cause thats a huge investment. Her place is 25 min about 16 miles from me. I don’t have a spot rn thats available in case I close... so I planned to meet her halfway.. but seems like she ghosted me.. lmk what I should do blue? I think I shoulda actually gave her an exact spot but its 4-5 days away and I haven’t decided yet.
So this chick I met on tinder we exchanged phone numbers.. I set up a date initially but she ended up flaking like 30 min b4 which pissed me tf off but I ended up facetiming her I felt like she was just nervous not necessarily didnt like me.. so I facetimed her and told her im going to a club had a table with some friend pretty much tried to get her regretting not coming out w me.. Next day she initiates good morning text.. we set up second date.. she shows up and it went really good she was def sexually attracted to me we made out hugged but she wouldnt let me hit cause she said its the first date.. which I dont mind but I felt like if I would have pushed it a lil more it woulda been a home run cause we were vibing.. but I didnt really care cause I was tired af had to wake up erly and sex might have been trash due to me being tried and i didnt want that to happen... so she ends up not contacting me after first date and I ghosted her for 3-4 days so I thought id hit her up again and I did.. we set up second date for gun range.. she fuckin flakes 30 mins b4... Im thinking she messin with someone else so I just hit her with an “ok” and im going to ghost her for 3-4 days to see if she texts back if not im thinking bout dropping that shit!?!!? what yall think??
