Im Confused On What I Should Do To Play The Game Correct
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Hello,
So I met this girl at a mall off a cold approach and I started texting her.. she was hesitant in the beginning but ended up giving me her number weird enough cause we both had a liking for music. So we been texting back and forth for a couple weeks cause our schedules are both hectic ended up hanging out on a sunday but she wasnt receptive to any advances to sexualize. Then I ended up texting her back after and she started investing a little more even to initiate a another day to hang out. I told her lets link at my crib unfortunately my house is occupied by family memebers at the moment so I forgot to let her know. That night I contacted her and said we should link at her crib ill pull up and we can hang out somewhere.. so I did that. I ended up driving around for starbucks with her and then we parked outside her crib I figured if it got heated well go back to her place. I started touching her and I went in for the kiss she bloked it so I resorted to just ignoring her and acting like im texting a chick.. She then started telling me she doesn’t kiss until their is a connection but then I started asking her when the last time she hooked up abd she said 2 months ago it was a one night stand. So I am confused so I asked her if she finds me attractive and she gave me a neutral nod like a forced yes nothing genunine. Then suprisingly a chick calls me but shes a friend and she sees the caller id. She says who that was and I told her its a friend and why do you care cause you dont like me anyways. She nodded and said theirs another guy im talking to as well, I didnt know if she saying that to piss me off for the chick calling me or she really talking to someone else. So I just ended the night and told her im going home to sleep, she said “wow your kicking me out, I said no I just have work”. So I am assuming she using me for my time and energy im planning on not texting her back.. Its weird she would invest 3 weeks of texting and hanging out with me twice and not want to kiss.. idk I kind of like her but what do you guys think I should do??? I already kind of messed up by driving to her place instead of having her come to mine which I usually do.. but do u think shes just using me?? Cause all she does is ask me questions about why guys do certain things and why you cheat etc. and how she had s bad past her bf kicked her out. Shes older too 33 but hot.
yeah man, glad you posted this as its a learning experience for sure. You got to understand it sometimes take multiple tries to land the kiss during the date. I usually try 3 different approaches before just waiting till the next date. Also its best after a flirty statement or when she is laughing or when things are tense sexually. But again, you trying 1 time and pretty much giving up wasn't the best way my dude. Try again especially with milf, are you younger than her?
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yea im 29 but she looks like shes 19.. its weird i feel like im older than her i just really want the expierence cause shes hot but idk bout an LTR (other account) I reached out and she responded immediately which seems like a good sign.. she used emojis.. I ghosted her for a day
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Damn.. Yeah see I didnt realize that fml.. I actually liked her too.. u think I should reach back out??
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-youre taking a 33:year old woman for coffee. I don't understand the coffee date thing. Coffee is for a girl who's quasi girlfriend status after you spend several nights together
-your response to her blocking your kiss was just totally wrong I'm sorry to say. You want to totally accept that and be cool about it, and there's a good chance she will want you to try again later if you handle it. It's one of those rare tests women do that I actually think is legitimate. She needs to know that you can handle the word no. You messed up big time.
-if she's hanging out with you on a date, 1 on 1, she WANTS TO LIKE YOU man. Think about it, why would she be with you otherwise for a first or second date? She has , or can acquire, scores of platonic male orbiters if she wants
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Okay so should I reach back out to her or just wait until she texts back or hits me up.. and if I do reach out what should I say. I agree with the texting thing idk I pulled a fresh and fit move which myron spoke about b4 that works I shoulda known better. Also Coffee is like 2.50 bro I was just driving around her crib and wanted some I dont see that as a big deal at all. Im really bad at this shit so please try to level instead of just criticizing.
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sounds like she's seducing you lol. And I'm sure she is talking to many guys. Lots of girls do. That deosnt mean shes fucking him so I'd get over that. I'd treat this girl as practice nothing else. You should have been able to kiss and fuck her that night imo
Lol bruh:
On the end about her using you. 1. A girl talking abt past relationships is an amazing opportunity for you to get her to open up imo. Never take offense to that + she will talk for hours and associate all the therapeutic feelings to you (dont talk to her for hours lol... unless you want to tho). Secondly she's 33 and talking about how guys cheat. She's clearly damaged and problematic. I would not take her serious and If you want to talk morals I would say leave her alone as she has enough problems lol.
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Yeah I mean she might be talking to many guys but shes literally been talking to me for 3-4 weeks, ubered to see me b4 and was calling me to hang out that night.. im just fucking confused that she wouldnt even let me pek a cheek or touch her for too long since shes showing high interest. Should I intitiate it back up or just wait till she hit me up just to see if she likes me or not after that. I actually unfortunately talked to her for hours cause I do actually like her shes really cute and feminine also fun to be around. I actually was kinda depressed cause I wasnt able to romance her cause I would love to have that bond with her.Also what should I text her if I should rengage. Im really bad at this shit. Thanks.
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If she blocks ur kiss, dont ignore her and go on your phone. That comes across super butthurt and childish. Next time just pull back and change the topic
Dont say "why do u care, u dont like me anyways" like bro that sounds like something a 15 year old would say + it puts you in a bad frame
This all just sounds like a bad date... the fact you both made eachother think ur seeing other people aswell.. its just a big mess sorry
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I didn’t really ignore her, I just started texting some random person and she caught on to that abd started asking me who im texting.. I think she likes me but she wants me to shower her with time and energy idk man should I text her again or just drop it im confused or wait till she text me ?
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If you wanna see her again then be a man and text her. Maybe send her the Ryan Gossling happy xyzday meme or say something you 2 talked about on the date