Comments by Ethan Smith
Joined 4y agoOne thing that sticks out to me: when you asked for her number and she gave you a joke answer, you should have addressed it instead of trying to pretending it didn't happen. You could have said something like "so sassy." in response which is a flirty way to address the fact that she didn't give you her number when you asked, and also opens up the conversation to some sexualizing.
No harm in being a bit persistent. Reengage, build rapport, and then go for a reschedule.
A few suggestions though:
- Don't use so many emojis, a little goes a long way. Too many can work against you.
- When you go for a girl's number, either by asking for it or telling her to text you at your number, pick one lane and hold the frame. Also, when you brought up the number, you should have moved to text right then instead of continuing on bumble.
- As Herb S said, lock in a solid plan and confirm before the date. Reading the texts, she never straight up agreed to the hotel meetup idea, just conveyed interest in hanging out.
Good luck bro
Appreciate the help. Went with, "what do you need to think about" and basically got "convince me, give me a reason."
Not a fan of this frame because I don't want to get into qualifying myself to her, interesting situation.
Sloppiness on my part. Forgot a condom, she wasn't cool with going raw.
It can be difficult, but it is important to take time and reflect on what went wrong with the relationship, on your side and hers. Figure out what you liked and didn't like, take responsibility for yourself, and recognize that a breakup is a powerful and motivating opportunity for growth. Establish some discipline in your life; create a solid routine, exercise, read, get ambitious about a career, etc. Serious change won't happen immediately, but as time goes on you'll start to notice the differences in yourself and in the way your future relationships play out.

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It's all good bro. Reschedules happen, just part of the game. Be chill about it, but don't start trying to lock down another time immediately, that can come off as needy.