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Hey bros. So I started a part-time hospital job while finishing school. The position requires clinical training and the person giving me my last 3 training sessions is a really cute girl around my age. Normally I wouldn’t go for a co-worker unless there’s obvious mutual interest, but I really like her values and personality, so there’s a part of me that wants to at least shoot my shot. The evening training shifts are 6 hrs long but relatively busy so we haven’t talked too much about personal things other than the basics Throughout each shift I’m mostly communicating with medical personnel and documenting patient interactions, and she’s mostly just observing me to make sure I’m doing everything correctly I don’t think she’s really attracted to me right now (physically she’d probably be considered “out of my league”) but I feel there's potential for chemistry. I’ve also had several situations where girls who weren’t interested in me at first ended up liking me later, so you never know. The thing is after my last training session tomorrow, I probably won’t see her in-person again. We work for a “3rd party” company that sends us out to various hospitals. Some shifts occasionally overlap, but it’s very rare. Either way, in those cases you basically just briefly hand over info to the person taking your shift. I’m trying to think of a direct but low-pressure way of asking her out. I want to be professional and don’t want her to feel awkward or anything. In non-work contexts I’m usually better at this. I’ve approached girls in public (coffee shops, etc) with success, and even with rejections, the vibe has been good and the girl leaves smiling. But obviously in this context it’s tricky. After each shift we usually walk out together to our cars in the parking lot. I’m thinking of maybe saying “thanks again for the training... etc etc” and then saying "this is for you btw" and handing her a little note that reads: “hey, just wanted to say I thought your style was cute. Here's my # in case you’re interested in a coffee sometime :) ###-####" Thoughts?

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Approached this cute girl when walking to car from college campus. She was late for a presentation, but she seemed into me so I walked with her like 3-4min. Made her laugh, showed high smv, etc. When we got to her building she asked if I wanted to exchange numbers. Then I fucked it up fast smfh. Other girls have reacted positively to closing for the date right away so I thought it would work, but she called me out and I failed the shit test. Initially she was definitely interested though. I was thinking of waiting 3-4 days then using the "if you're too nervous, I'd understand" unless there is something better. Thoughts? (PS. Alex please don't use this for video. I really wouldn't want her to see it).

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I was thinking "Juliette, I can't seduce you with my french until you respond" Or "Juliette, I know you're a bad texter but I can't seduce you with my French until you respond" Maybe writing it in French to get her attention (no one really speaks it where we live in the US). Any of these good or is there something better?

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She's not invested but I feel I can still turn her. I was thinking of - "am I wrong?" but I don't if there's something better Maybe “If you’re a little inexperienced, I’d understand”

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I thought of "same but a little down time is healthy" or "Same but I'm sure we can fit it in a drink if we wanted to ;)" --> this one seems a little try hard

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I was just going to say: "Definitely. How's your day going?" Is that lame? Or how about: "Yup I need a little trouble. How's your day going"

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This girl has been pretty invested so her excuse seems genuine. It's been a few hours. Should I respond to her last message with "I guess it's official. What's your schedule like next week?"

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I tried to tease but she didn't respond. It's been like 4 days I was thinking: Option 1: "honest question: Did I come off as an asshole?" when she says yes I say "I guess my sense of humor isn't for everyone" then lead from there Option 2: "Can I be honest?" when she says yes I say "I'm pretty sure we'd vibe. I mean we're both Mac fans with curlyish hair so we have that going for us"

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No response though she was answering fast before. She kept asking about my work so maybe I lost value teling her I'm switching jobs Thinking of waiting 3-4 days and saying "Don't worry it's not a trick question haha"

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Invited this girl last night but it was too sudden and late (plus she's younger). My friend invited me to a bar tonight with his fwb. Any advice on getting this girl interested in joining? I was thinking "Hey so a friend invited me to local bar tonight with his gf, down to join? Def better than getting to each know each other over text"

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