Did I lose value here?

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J

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J

28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+15)

No response though she was answering fast before. She kept asking about my work so maybe I lost value teling her I'm switching jobs

Thinking of waiting 3-4 days and saying "Don't worry it's not a trick question haha"

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Dennis Ejorh Avatar

11 Posts (+22), 395 Cmts (+179)

Hey, bro. It’s your attempt at closing. You need to soft close before you hard close.

Soft Close:
You: Mhm ;) do you like wine
Them: love wine :)
You: Haha nice. Red or White
Them: usually red....blah blah blah
You: Perfect :) let’s split this bottle of (whatever) I got sometime soon
Them: haha sounds good :)

Hard Close:
You: Mhm ;) what’s your schedule like

Here’s a line that normally works in terms of transitioning from text buddy back and forth to setting up the date:

“I can tell you’re super passionate about your career. Don’t tell me much now. I’d rather hear & see you talk about it. Just more organic and authentic that way. Call be old fashioned haha”

Or
“Hey don’t tell me all the good stuff now. We still have a whole date to go on ;)”

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

No, I don't think you lost any value by telling her you switched jobs. Most chicks don't care about that. Your follow up text is fine, but remove the "Haha" part from it. In general you want to minimize the use of "Hahas" and "Lols" that make your texting sound feminine.

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L

1 Post (+0), 284 Cmts (+39)

Alex I never paid attention but do you use lol's or haha's at all? lol

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

Very rarely, they're largely unnecessary. I prefer to use a ;) when I need to "soften" a text

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J

28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+15)

No answer a week later. Should I just give it more time or try again?

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

"If you're too nervous, I'd understand"

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Dennis Ejorh Avatar

11 Posts (+22), 395 Cmts (+179)

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