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The original post and all previous messages that lead up to this point can be found here: https://forums.playingfire.com/posts/baited-dead-lead-into-sexting-how-to-convert Alex, I respect your advice that going for sexting/asking for nudes is a generally suboptimal strategy. Given that I had tried the more normal route with this girl and she ghosted for no good reason shortly before we would have met up, I decided it would be worth it to go for a Hail Mary play. She had hookups as one of the things she’s looking for in bio and her profile said something about the end about looking for someone to do things in and out of bed with. That was a big reason I thought my hail my could be showing her the big D (+ video of some dominant sex) to demonstrate sexual value. I’ve done this before where I send stuff without asking for investment in return and I feel like it has to much of a selling frame on my end instead of a collaborating, we’re both investing frame. I’m thinking it’s easier for her to backwards rationalize her investment (I invested bc Im turned on and intrigued by this guy). I wanted to make sure she invested closer to equally and she was def turned on by it (p*say was clearly wet in pic). If there’s another play you would have recommended in the spot I was in, I’m definitely open to hearing it. Moving to the present moment now. I’ve uploaded how the rest of the conversation went. This girl picked a date to hangout and I agreed + proposed a meetup spot to which she ghosted again. Probably this is dead and there isn’t much to do here, but perhaps you guys can suggest some last ditch effort that could be made here. The last text from me was last sat night, about a week ago. Thanks and I hope you guys are having a kickass start to the new year -Rob

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Got her investing and now it’s likely stuck. Not sure if my problem is that she doesn’t want to seem like a slut, just wanted attention validation mainly. Not exactly sure what killed the lead in the first place. There was a good amount of sexual, compliance from her, but not a ton of investment. Thinking maybe I could follow up with something like: I know you’re attracted to me, just share what’s on your mind/what’s the problem

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Her: Hey * Her: Having a great weekend? Me: Not bad so far. Adorable smile btw ;) 5 days or so Me: Always so talkative? Her: What can I say... I'm a woman of many words Her: Winking tongue out emoji Her: How's your friday? Any idea on where to take this next? Her profile says she's from LA so no use asking if she's originally from here. Help is appreciated as always and hope you're all doing well!

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Hey guys! So this really cute girl liked one of my photos on Hinge and then the exchange happened as follows: Me: You have cute freckles ;) (4 days later) Me: And I thought I barely check this lol (2 days later) Her: Aw thank you :) I never was good with online/texting game so much and I'm a bit rusty on the recommended advice here in moving things forward. Feel free to critique anything I've done up to this point and as the title suggests, what should our steps be moving forward? Thanks! Hope you guys are out there crushing it -Rob

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Original Thread: This girl is quality so I definitely want her on my rotation. We had really great sex, played out some of her kinks, and gave her two orgasms (also according to her I was her biggest). She's in LA until mid August and then she'll be in San Francisco. I'm in Northern California right now, but I'm going to visit one of my main girls in LA near where she's staying for a month myself. This is our text conversation after we banged. Any suggestions on what to do now and what I could improve on would be greatly appreciated! Me: That was fire emoji 2x Her: Yup :') drove us home the whole way. Was having flashbacks hahaha Me: Ooh.. hot. How does it feel to be home? Get lots of sleep? Her: I'm at my desk at work feelin like death hahaha Me: You should picture some things we could do on that desk. Might make you feel a little better ;) Her: Stooop Sad emoji you felt so good Me: Then why do you want me to stop? sly/confidence emoji Her: Hahaha Whisper/quiet face emoji Me later in the day: Btw, I like that you're ambitious and have depth. It's hard to find girls who are solid and cool. Her: Wow anime eyes emoji thank you :') Me one and a half days later: So, you been thinking of me? :) Her: I was and i was busyyyy steamed face emoji hahaha Me: Ooh.. good girl wink emoji. What part of LA are you staying again? Her: 2 tongue out front emojis by USC subletting a grungy lil studio til August Me: Within next two weeks I'm headed to Torrance/PV area to visit a couple friends for about a month :) (this is relatively close to her) Her: Oh nice! Maybe I'll see you then Me: What's your work schedule usually like? All advice is appreciated. Thanks! My update in that post: Lol, update. She replied with "9:15 ish til before 6 but might adjust soon because of an assignment! Didn't have service sat/sun cuz i was camping haha" She doesn't say whether it's mon-fri or what days it usually is, but I can potentially guess from her camping example that she is mon-fri. Should I wait to lock in more specific plans for when it's getting closer to time? Any comments/suggestions/feedback from anything that's happened so far is of course welcome. Thanks! Chat Updates: Me: Sounds good + for sure! Nice :). How was your trip? Her: Fun! But my back hurt a lottt after. Will only camp again if I'm sleeping on memory foam angel emoji Me: Lol, I thought you liked it a little rough wink emoji Her: I do!! Not when a rock hard air mattress is the one doing the damage hahahah Me: Laughing crying emoji. Ya, I've learned to bring at least a couple pads to avoid that trouble haha Last text was Wed, this is Sat 10 AM Me: Catching up on rest yet or full summer mode? Sun emojiSunglasses face emoji Her: Going to concern tonight so no rest hehe Me: Nice, sounds fun and be safe :). Btw, would it be easier for you to hang out the week of the 26th or the week of the 2nd? I don't like my last text as I could have asked more about her concert first. That was Sat night, this is Monday night. Also, the reason I was trying to figure this out was I was about to have a video chat with the girl I'm going to visit primarily and I was wondering what date to tell her I arrive. If it was possible, I was going to see the new girl first and then spend the longer visit with the first girl as planned. Any thoughts would be appreciated as always! Thanks, Robert

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This girl is quality so I definitely want her on my rotation. We had really great sex, played out some of her kinks, and gave her two orgasms (also according to her I was her biggest). She's in LA until mid August and then she'll be in San Francisco. I'm in Northern California right now, but I'm going to visit one of my main girls in LA near where she's staying for a month myself. This is our text conversation after we banged. Any suggestions on what to do now and what I could improve on would be greatly appreciated! Me: That was fire emoji 2x Her: Yup :') drove us home the whole way. Was having flashbacks hahaha Me: Ooh.. hot. How does it feel to be home? Get lots of sleep? Her: I'm at my desk at work feelin like death hahaha Me: You should picture some things we could do on that desk. Might make you feel a little better ;) Her: Stooop Sad emoji you felt so good Me: Then why do you want me to stop? sly/confidence emoji Her: Hahaha Whisper/quiet face emoji Me later in the day: Btw, I like that you're ambitious and have depth. It's hard to find girls who are solid and cool. Her: Wow anime eyes emoji thank you :') Me one and a half days later: So, you been thinking of me? :) Her: I was and i was busyyyy steamed face emoji hahaha Me: Ooh.. good girl wink emoji. What part of LA are you staying again? Her: 2 tongue out front emojis by USC subletting a grungy lil studio til August Me: Within next two weeks I'm headed to Torrance/PV area to visit a couple friends for about a month :) (this is relatively close to her) Her: Oh nice! Maybe I'll see you then Me: What's your work schedule usually like? All advice is appreciated. Thanks!

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I saw a hot girl going down the escalator at the fashion show mall here in Vegas as I was going up. I went down the escalator to go approach her. I caught up to her by saying excuse me and then walking even/slightly ahead of her before stopping her after a minute (which she was very compliant). She explained she was from Russia and travelling, I talked about her logistics and shot the shit a bit with a flirty vibe. I literally had to go back to catch my uber which was coming shortly. She's been traveling and it was her last night in Vegas before she moved on. She said she was going to take a short nap, but that she had no plans. I explained that I was going over to the cosmo just to waste some time as my main objective was to get shoes. She was very friendly and compliant overall with eyes that seemed lit up. I said we should exchange numbers and that that I'll call her in a couple hours. I waited for her to agree before giving her my phone. There seemed to be every indication this was a high probability number. I texted: Are you up? After a couple hours and got left on read. I'd just finished watching a video where Alex talked to Jmulv. Jmulv was saying he likes to talk to a girl as if he's already having sex with her and I was trying that vibe. I'm sure there's a good chance it was something other than the text (maybe even her being tired, her thinking she's only here one night so what's the point, or thinking I just want to bang since I'm trying to hang out late), but given how hot she was and how receptive/compliant she was, I decided to post for learning purposes anyway. Hope you guys don't see this as a waste of time. Thanks!

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Given the objection to coming straight to my place, I used the "stranger danger?" response as seen from a PWF video. Any suggestions about this one? Msging on instagram skipping to plan making part Me: What're you doing tmrw/tue? Her: Hi :) As of now I am putting my place together, tomorrow and be free to do something thing (not exactly sure about this one) Me: For sure. I'll hyu tmrw Me: Sup bby girl. I've got a few things to get done then I'll be free. What's your day like? Her: Hi-I'm going to work today and hitting the gym, what do you have in mind? Me: How close are you to (Address) Her: It's not a bad drive, what's that? Her: I'd prefer coffee or dinner with you ^^ Me: Ya, I was thinking we could have tea. It's my air bnb Me: What's your timing btw? Her: I'd prefer to meet somewhere public tho :) Her: We can totally do tea Me: Stranger danger? Me: Also, lmk timing. Still have to shower Her: Common sense Me: We can meet for tea at Envy steak house down the street Her: Honestly I'm good but thank you anyways Me: Just wanted to know your objection. If that's enough to turn you off from me, np Her: Tbh I'm still getting settled and would prefer to wait longer before trying to date, but I also do prefer meeting in public places Her: So I appreciate it but I don't think it's the right time

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