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declined 2nd date but hitting me up again

quick background: -met her at the gym, exchanged numbers , set up date ->grabbed drinks after work a few days later (but probably a mistake on my end since I was still in work mode and kinda lacked my a-game) ->so date just ended up being a chill drinks date ->brief text exchange the days after, told her two days later that i had a great time and whether she was down to hang out again => her response: "had a great time as well, thank you for the evening but for me it wasnt enough for a second date". my reply: "all good sometimes it just doesnt match". Figured onto the next. -saw her again at the gym a few days later ; shot the shit for a lil bit then back to workout -she then texted me on friday outta the blue about whether i was at the gym and if it's crowded , kepts my replies short didnt really think about it. now i am just wondering, since it rarely or never happened that after a girl had said no to a second date, that she still hit me up after. any one ever had a similar experience - think it's worth keeping the conversation going or just let it fade away/make no effort in hitting her up from my end?

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Not sure how to procede or let it sit for a lil while?

background: met this girl when i was out in the city. had sex on the second date, after that pretty much just sex/hanging out dates at my place. I went to travel a bit, so we hadn't seen each other for about 3-4 weeks. once i was back, i felt it was a bit more difficult to meet up with her again, eventually we just met up for dinner (last sunday). -the vibe was a bit off at the dinner, she was a bit more distant, which in return felt also weird to me. nevertheless, we did a lil walk around the nearby park and just made out a lil before saying goodbye. -on my way back home i received a text from her where she apologized for her behaviour and being so distant. she didnt feel liked it matched with us that evening, that's why it became a bit uncomfortable to her (so I probably fucked up during the dinner date and got stuck in my head too much). since then we just texted a bit back and forth but i havent pushed a for any date. should i just let it chill for a while or trying to set up another date rather sooner than later?

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not sure how to procede (or leave it be?)

background: -met her through a social circle/some mutual friends -saw each other at some of their homeparties but I never did pursue her cuz I was busy with other girls -then at the last homeparty talked to her for a while got her number and set up a coffee date. -went on a date with her, vibed pretty well and just some light touching ; didnt wanna force anything (then again maybe I should have) since these social circle things can get weird if you mess it up too much cuz you gonna see her again text exchange after date: (didnt include screenshots because texts are in german so just a translation here) me: i had a pretty good time on thursday, are you down to meet up again some time? her: me as well :) but I like you way too much and I love "female friend", we can't mess this up now and then everything will be awkward. I got a bunch of things ony mind currently with moving into a new apartment and so on. Besides you are way too great of a guy and I dont wanna be an asshole. me: Sure, I know what you mean. No pressure, I just find you cute. Just would be a shame to let something good go by. I think we are both mature enoguh to not make things awkward. her: I am :). Probably yes, but what if not, then it really sucks. me: I would just approach it totally laid-back, no expectations. her: Then I'm relieved :) after that we just exchanged some texts here and there. I didnt immediately go for trying to set up another meet up after text exchang since it could have come as over eager. now not sure whether try setting up another date or just leave it be and take the L ? (sorry for the long post, and hope the translations make sense haha)

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4y ago

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Valentine's Day Memes (for re-engagement etc)

With Valentine's Day being just around the corner, I figured a collection of usuable memes for re-engaging girls that you banged/or havent is fitting. My pic here usually gets a good response

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reviving old fuckbuddies

General question: say you fucked some girl a couple of times but then "life happened" or you just lost touch. how would you go about hitting her up again? just some meme? or do you think one should avoid trying to revive old contacts in general since it could come off as needy?

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Girl doesn't seem too interested after great first date

background: we met up at a bar, vibed pretty well immediately -> went back to my place, had sex for multiple rounds; so overall great time i'd say However, after she didn't seem to invested or too eager to meet up again. text exchange after date: her: Arrived home safely :) me: glad to hear That was (fire emojis) her:Yes it was (fire emojis) Following day: (29th Dec) me: Let me know, when you are free again ;) her: I will :) 1st Jan: me: Happy New Year girl her: Thank you, you too :) (then some quick blabla what did you do for new years etc) 3Jan me: hola guapa, hope your new year start went well, what's your schedule like this week? 4thJan: her: Hey yes it did, and yours? Work started again, so rather bad. -Me asking her regarding her schedule was perhaps a bit too eager but I just wanted to plan my dates this week. -Maybe I'm overanalyzing but somehow my gut feeling tells me that there isn't too much interest on her part? -Should I just let it be for now and hit her up next weekend or so?

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Worth pursuing at a later point or ditch?

situation salvageable or does this fall into the category of women saying "no chemistry"/not into me? (texts are translated from german to english) background: me 29; she's 39 one year divorced. I was her first "stranger" meeting from online. -She actually quickly deleted hinge after we exchanged numbers (apps being not her thing etc). -met at a bar for a few drinks. -Had a good connection, a chill first date. Since she was hesitant about online dating etc. no straight to the house date. -As you can see in the text, said I had a good time and just figured logistics for second date. She replied about not being in "dating-mode". Told her "all good, let me know if something changes" -> she: "will do. thank you :)" (not visible in the screenshot)

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4y ago

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technical support question: Can't login to Gmail anymore

Hey there, I hope someone from support or so can help me. Somehow google thinks that there is suspicious activity with the email I used to buy and sign in for the PWF Product. Usually shouldn't be a problem, however, I forgot my password for PWF. So now I only have the email as login, no idea regarding the password, and unable to recover the password cuz I can't access my email. Any help from support from would be great

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Call Out Situation or not?

Hey there, so I met this girl of Bumble. Had a pretty good first date, vibed well. she insisted on meeting in public first, grabbed some drinks at a bar, after we went up to the rooftop terrace of my apartment building. Went into my aparment for another glass of wine -> makeout, but from her body language it didn't seem like pushing would have been adequate. texted a lil the days after, some callback humor, tried to schedule another date, she responeded "yea thursday or towards the end of the week could work" (last week) Hit her up with a feeler text at the end of the week -> no response and radio silence since then I believe Alex mentioned in the "stopped responding" video that a call out is adequate if you feel like she is ignoring you on purpose. So I was thinking texting something along the lines of "you can tell me if you are not interested anymore, then i'll stop trying". Cuz I think if I were to hit her up with a meme again or so for some chit chat, it would just be beating around the bush.

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5y ago

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The "I met someone" message

Bit of an esoteric post Just wanted to share my thoughts on a "phenomenon" that happend to me couple of times over the last few weeks and months: Being this type of player or ladiesman, one is optimally perceived by women as such. Which is good and bad. Usually women are more open towards you sexually and don't create this "three dates and you can fuck me" frame for you, etc. However, lately I've been getting a couple of these "hey I need to tell you, I met someone...." messags from girls after seeing them for a couple of weeks or months. Then of course they want to break it up with you, even though you'd like to bang them some more. Usually I just wish them all the best. You guys feel like this is just part of the game ? (i.e. you were the player she wanted to have fun with but now it's time move on) P.S. And dont get me wrong I'm not complaining about that. Maybe it's just the fall wheather that makes you sentimental. :D

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