quick background:
-met her at the gym, exchanged numbers , set up date
->grabbed drinks after work a few days later (but probably a mistake on my end since I was still in work mode and kinda lacked my a-game)
->so date just ended up being a chill drinks date
->brief text exchange the days after, told her two days later that i had a great time and whether she was down to hang out again => her response: "had a great time as well, thank you for the evening but for me it wasnt enough for a second date". my reply: "all good sometimes it just doesnt match". Figured onto the next.
-saw her again at the gym a few days later ; shot the shit for a lil bit then back to workout
-she then texted me on friday outta the blue about whether i was at the gym and if it's crowded , kepts my replies short didnt really think about it.
now i am just wondering, since it rarely or never happened that after a girl had said no to a second date, that she still hit me up after.
any one ever had a similar experience - think it's worth keeping the conversation going or just let it fade away/make no effort in hitting her up from my end?
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It sounds like she saw two different sides of you: The chill and talkative side that you display at the gym, and the less-fun work mode that you displayed at the date. She's showing interest each time after she sees you at the gym, so as long as you can keep that side of your personality up, I think you've got a chance. No harm in hitting her back up and seeing where it goes.
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yea could be. Oddly enough, ever since then we had a pretty active back and forth over text.
however, dont really know whether to ask for another meetup/date since she declined that after the first one.
if anyone else ever had a similar situation that turned around, feel free to give input
It's a hard situation, i can't think of something specific to say, but generally i wouldn't recomment becoming her text buddy: she gets what she wants, no pressure about meeting up, texting with interesting person. I would try to call out rejection but increased investment in non buttheart way
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She didn't actually hit you up after. She tried to use you to find out whether the gym was not crowded. Don't mix up the signals. Just move on. You've already met once and she has given you a clear no. No point in pushing
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