Girl doesn't seem too interested after great first date
23 Posts (+21), 65 Cmts (+28)
background:
we met up at a bar, vibed pretty well immediately -> went back to my place, had sex for multiple rounds; so overall great time i'd say
However, after she didn't seem to invested or too eager to meet up again.
text exchange after date:
her: Arrived home safely :)
me: glad to hear
That was (fire emojis)
her:Yes it was (fire emojis)
Following day: (29th Dec)
me: Let me know, when you are free again ;)
her: I will :)
1st Jan:
me: Happy New Year girl
her: Thank you, you too :)
(then some quick blabla what did you do for new years etc)
3Jan
me: hola guapa, hope your new year start went well,
what's your schedule like this week?
4thJan:
her: Hey yes it did, and yours? Work started again, so rather bad.
-Me asking her regarding her schedule was perhaps a bit too eager but I just wanted to plan my dates this week.
-Maybe I'm overanalyzing but somehow my gut feeling tells me that there isn't too much interest on her part?
-Should I just let it be for now and hit her up next weekend or so?
23 Posts (+4), 187 Cmts (+71)
'her: Hey yes it did, and yours? Work started again, so rather bad.'
-Perhaps the above is an opportunity to say something like "Sounds like you're in need of some more stress relief"
-Be sure to answer in regards to 'and yours?' she said. With something cool she can "bite on" & ask about or being generic with saying working out looking nice & fit
Yeah, I think you are reading too much into it as well. She's responding back. She probably is a bit busy with work which might be why her answers are short, or she could just not be that much into texting. Definitely try to schedule the second date asap. Answer her question, be like "I feel you. I've been busy with _____". You should always try to make it seem like you are busy and busy doing cool shit. I agree with answering with "Sounds like you're in need of some stress relief" and trying to go for the soft close. Suggest a date and time. If she's still being vague then you could always be like "I'm sure we could both find some time in our busy schedule if we both wanted to. Plus you'll get to relax and de-stress"
10 Posts (+1), 471 Cmts (+173)
Honestly man, I think you're reading too much into it. Personally, if I hookup with a chick & the sex is phenomenal, they always come back every time for more. It's because women are more clingy to you once they orgasm. That's why the after care for a girl is very important to do or else she will think you just want a one night stand. So with that being said, just know that the biggest mistake guys do after hooking up is that they get too needy & they blow the girl's phone up. What you want to do is get the second date quickly without being needy. It's like you are into her & then you aren't her. I can't really give you a visual of how your texting should be, but check out this video. It'll put all your worries to rest ;) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gATOcJ36KTk
23 Posts (+21), 65 Cmts (+28)
yea I think i got a bit overzealous trying to set up the second date, thanks i'll check out the video and refresh my mind
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Not necessarily low interest, seems like she's just busy with work. You can say something like "Well, I guess we have to find some way to cheer you up ;)"
23 Posts (+21), 65 Cmts (+28)
update: kept it cool just exchanged few texts here and there.
then asked her whether she was free this weekend,
her reply: "actually yes, but I'm currently not in the mood for sex🙈 "
not sure how to go from there, maybe some other fuckbuddy or ex-bf situation.
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
"We'll just hold hands instead then" and try meeting her up anyway
35 Posts (+2), 150 Cmts (+63)
Honestly this happened to me recently, I browsed the forums and I am wondering if it is sort of a guilt thing. Most dudes are chodes, so a lot of the less experienced women don't really expect to sleep with a guy on the first night. Then after a few days go by they get this sort of guilt/slutty feeling. Idk, notice how she says she's "not in the mood for sex". Like she still wants to see you, but doesn't want it to seem like you're just going to bang. That would make me guess she felt kind of bad after the first time. I wouldn't bring this up over text, just ask her about it next time you see her in person.