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It’s a first for me that a girl goes with “I’m a good girl”. I was thinking about saying, “we can change that”, or “that’s not what the all black tells me”. I have doubts about we can change that because I feel she thinks I’m talking about a hookup and she’s not into it, and for “that’s not what the all black tells me”, I feel it wouldn’t fit. No particular reason aside from a gut feeling

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You guys got any advice for what to do on phone calls? Just recently had one and I have the feeling it could’ve been better. It was a short getting to know each other call, but I wonder if there’s anything to do like with text game?

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Alright so I’m sure some of you guys remember I had posted this conversation earlier. We had a “date” set up for last Saturday but she never let me know, I assumed she ghosted me and today I called her out on it cuz I felt there was nothing to lose at this point. I don’t want to seem desperate in my response now, and I’m not sure if I should be empathetic or not. I know Alex had a video on that, but I can’t seem to find it and don’t remember too well. Advice? I was thinking of showing some empathy but not much interest by saying “Oh I hope everything is alright, how does Sunday at 10 sound at (address)?”

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Hey guys, I’m having a brain fart and idk how to move the interaction forwards. Idk if this is an enthusiastic definitely and I should start closing or keep bantering? She started the convo by qualifying herself too, due to my bio, included for reference. Any advice would help greatly now and in the future

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I’m struggling to move this one forwards. Nothing comes to mind to keep it going aside from “mhm it is”

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Aye, I opened a girl with hey trouble, she responds with “trouble?” Followed her up with “well you matched with me for starters”. From there she says “How does that mean trouble lol”. Advice?

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Matched with this girl on HUD. This would be the 2nd time I meet someone from a dating app in person, 1st hookup. Thoughts on our interaction? What can I improve on? Honest to god I was Half asleep last night and something got into me while we were messaging. I’m not gonna bring her to my place(I’m 20 and live with my parents atm), and I feel sketched out going to her place. Her profile says shes 25. Gonna probably meet at hotel and take it from there. Speaking of which, what should I do in person to make it all the way? Also, I do feel I should have sent a dick pic instead of a picture of myself, due to the context being sexual. General thoughts?

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Lately I’ve been getting matches on apps again, and after watching some of Alex’s vids I’ve gotten more confident because I feel like I know what to do. As soon as I open though, that confidence just disappears and my brain craps itself. Any advice on how to move the interaction here?

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Just wanted to ask what’re your follow ups for these openers? I got a match on bumble and one on tinder and Hey Trouble was easier to follow up, but I’m drawing blanks for bumble. I’ll include screenshots Edit- I’ve also noticed most girls I message hey trouble don’t respond too often

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So at work today, I got a girl's #. I was teaching her how to wakeboard but sadly she never got up and gave up. Long story short my coworker noticed I was into her and ended up getting her # for me(It's kind of sad honestly). I didn't get her name sadly, but I figure that's easy to get once I start talking to her. How would I open sending her the first text? Its the first time I ever got a number. How would I be able to sexualize the conversation without being creepy?

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