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Am I texting my gf too much? How to stop it

Hey guys, so I have a girlfriend and we text everyday. I'm aware of texting killing relationships so I try to text as little as possible, the problem is my girl insists on texting being important and has even told me she wants me to text her more. I agreed to text a bit more at the time, but I've been texting her about 5 times a day ever since. Now I realize this is a mistake, ideally from what I've heard, texting everyday is very bad in the long term, but I don't know how to handle it when my gf is not aware of this. Basically a classic case of wanting something but needing something else.

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What to reapond when gf asks if I like her

My girlfriend and i were chatting and she asked me if I like her. Just saying yes would be super lame but I also don't want to go "simp mode" and say some Kind of love confession. What would you guys say? I can use voice notes too if that's better

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Can one somehow comeback from point of no return?

So I had been on 4 dates with a girl. We scheduled a 5th date but she flaked the day before saying she had to work and her day off had been changed. I asked when she would be free and she never responded. It's been a week. A very likely explanation is that last time we spent the night together after partying. She slept with her head on my chest but the next morning I was not able to make sex happen as I felt like she was not responsive to my advances, she wouldn't say no but also wouldn't "help". So I stopped. She made me breakfast and we talked a bit and then she had to leave for her shift at work. I feel like double texting is not really an option at this stage. But if she ever reaches out, what would be the ideal approach?

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Girl I've seen once is asking for money

Hey guys, I would really like to know your opinion on this situation and what's the best thing to do. I went on a date with this girl, let's call her Mary. She seemed into me but was extremely shy which made it impossible to create the moment for sex/making out. As she was unable to maintain eye contact for more than a second without turning her head and blushing. Today she texted me saying she needed my help. She said she needs 20 bucks as she is out of money and need to pay for the buses to go to work. She says she would pay me back on Tuesday. I personally feel like this is very insulting. She can get it from friends or family but goes to me, a guy she has seen once, for money? It's a small amount but still. What do you guys think? I asked her why did she dedice to reach out to me specifically, she said she has asked everybody I think is BS

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Is it worth being persistent if we have already hung out?

Hey guys. I hung out with this girl the other day, it went well, we went to a bar, towards the end she got all touchy and we made out, then went home. She made multiple comments about inviting me to hang out in the future and even offered to help me perform a DJ set at a radio station as she knows the owner. When we parted ways we kissed and after texting me she got home safe, that was it. 5 days later I texted her, asked how she was doing and told her about an event I'm interested in, and that we should attend. She told me she was really busy moving to a new apartment but then said the event sounded really interesting and that she totally wants to go. I then told her that we should go on Sunday and then she went radio silence. That was on Tuesday night and it's now Thursday, no reply. I'm familiar with being a little persistent when you are in the texting phase before meeting her, but now that we have already met, isn't it a waste of time? I mean she already knows me and despite of showing the opposite in the date, her not responding is a clear sign she is not interested right?

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Girl got upset about me not wanting to tell her everything about me over text

Hey so i was talking to a cute chick from bumble, she was good at conversation and seemed pretty interested. Problem is she kept pushing everyday to ask more and more about me, and i tried to give her shorter answers , telling her i prefer to go that deep in person, as it is more fun. We were going to make plans as soon as she got her schedule tomorrow, but now after i insisted once again on not telling everything yet she made a 180 and replied with a super dry hahaha okay. What can i do? She probably thinks im inflexible and that i dont want to talk but its just that she makes too many questions and i dont want to ruin the mystery. I feel like im coming off as too mysterious but its because shes too curious too. How can i save this

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How to handle girl leaving for a month

Hey. So i met this girl and we have hung out twice. We hooked up on our second date. I feel great chemistry so far. Problem is she is leaving for vacation for a whole month. How do I handle not being able to hang out for so long? I don't know how much or how often I should text her. @avilench . has a video on not being able to meet but that applies when the girl is still pretty much a stranger. In this case she already has developed some bond so i don't know if it's appropriate to just cut contact so abruptly. My concern is that I don't want to become a text buddy but also I'm afraid she will think I'm not interested if I don't text her while she's away Thanks

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When is it appropriate to leave her on read?

I hooked up with a girl on our second date yesterday. I think it went really well, but we kept texting a little bit after we both went to our own homes. (We went to a motel instead of going to my place, pretty common thing to do in Colombia) During that short conversation I told her my bed had just broken down (which was true) and told her: "Good thing we didn't pick my place yesterday or it would have been a disaster, don't you think?" She replied "Hahahaha definitely" I think replying to that is unnecessary isn't it? Should I leave it at that, or "heart" her message (WhatsApp has message reactions now) , or say something? I think is good to let things cool down for a couple of days after hanging out.

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Model Suddenly stopped responding. Salvageable?

Hey guys, so i matched a couple hours ago with a gorgeous chick who opened me first (a very bland way to open but still). I tried to use a short 3 message back and forth routine but she didn't respond how 99% of people do so now i don't know if it got weird for trying to force it or what. Usually my routine goes like this. Me: Hey X. I'm worried about something X: Hey! What are you worried about? Me: Ill tell you only under one condition X: Ok which is it? Me: When we hang out I'll get the drinks but the dessert is on you, deal? X: Okay sounds good. But this time the Convo went like this: Her: 👋 Me: Hey X, I'm worried about something Her: Hey! tell me about it Me: Okay I'll tell you but only under one condition Her: ☹️ Me: Why the sad face, it's a good condition, don't worry. I promise That's it, no response. Only like and hour has passed but she opened me so quickly and was responding instantly so I don't thanks she's going to reply ever again. How bad was that last text, and what should I do next

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Said something stupid so girl ignored me. Is there any hope?

Hey guys. So this girl gave me her number on tinder. I texted her something that is very very corny in hindsight. She obviously has not responded and it's been like 3 hours and she has been online, so it's pretty sure she is just going to ignore me. I took her as the quirky girl type, or e-girl I guess. She has the photo of a baby cat drooling while sleeping. So I said: Hey Sara. We don't know each other that much yet, but i feel like a drooling kitten as a profile pic it's definitely so you. Is there any good recovery lines for this? How much should I wait?

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