Hi guys, Not sure if this is the best forum to post this, but I’m feeling pretty defeatist about the whole dating scene lately. I’m 29, 5'8", and in decent shape. I use Hinge and get a lot of matches, but for some reason, they never seem to go anywhere. I’d rate myself a 6/10—not the worst-looking guy at all—but I just don’t get this dating game anymore. I match with a lot of girls, we start chatting, and then they just disappear. We move to texting, and then they ghost or stop replying altogether. We even make plans to go on dates, and then they go quiet or cancel last minute. I don’t mind rejection—it’s a normal part of dating. But what I don’t understand are the women who lead you on. Why give me your number if you’re not going to reply? Why make plans and then cancel without a word? It’s really starting to mess with my confidence, and I’m just looking for some advice or insight from anyone who’s been through something similar. How do you handle this kind of situation? I have attached my hinge pics. Thanks for any advice.
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Hi guys can someone send me a hinge profile blueprint ? Also what’s the best pics of these.
Guys how do I approach the below ? Shall I hit her up in a few days or send “did u forget to press send “
Guys, Can you post a hinge/tinder blueprint I can have.. From beginning to closing ! Thanks
Hi guys, Sorry to be all doom and gloom but I’m nearing my end with dating..I just seem to get nowhere. I used to weigh 98kg & now I’m down to 85kg and my aim is to go down to 75kg..however even at 96kg I felt things were even easier ? Lol My main place of sourcing is insta..I’ve had more success on insta than I ever had on tinder,however I downloaded tinder again yesterday and being on there makes me super depressed and just want to check out. Instagram I’ve met girls on there..but hardly ever on tinder..being on tinder hair depresses me lol and generally makes me feel abit insecure. I downloaded it yesterday and so far I’ve had 3/4 matches..i average around 1 match out of 50 swipes.I will attach my photos below and profile. I’m heading down the stage of blackpill as I’ve seen friends of mine who are super good looking..get double matched and success than me! It’s depressing...even with one of my friend we did a test to see whether bad “game” can reduced his chances with girls..but no he still managed to bag them. Cold approach I’ve started again..I approached a girl some weeks ago 6.8/10 and we hit it off over insta..however I killed it as she seemed she wasn’t interested in that way. My lay count is around 7/8 I think..27 year old guy.I just feel like a loser. My confidence is super low now I don’t even like approaching girls in clubs or bars..I’d rather just not speak to them. I even bought a rating system from ‘wheat waffles’ and he rated me a 5/10 lol... I’ve being watching too much of this black pill content which ultimately makes me believe it’s all looks. Honestly feel very defeated.
Hi gents, I have being feeling very much like a doom piller lately and very nihilistic in my approach and pursuits with women..I just feel like I’m getting nowhere whether it be tinder/bumble /hinge I have had no real success..some matches here and there but nothing substantial Tinder is so fucking strange,I’ll get loads of matches sometimes and then completely nothing for some days..hinge is a match out of 30 and bumble is a match out of 90 I’ll attach my profiles below.the pics are old though Before my weight loss journey started I had better luck when I lived up north (Manchester) however now I’m back in my town I find I’m Struggling which sometimes leaves me feeling super depressed.. Im working out,i was 97Kg months ago now I’m down to 88kg..I’m hoping to get down to 80KG Though soon.. I’ve only recently started going out to bars and clubs again and I feel it’s important to add that to my game..I spoke to 2 girls,one gave me her insta but didn’t reply and the other gave me her number but didn’t reply..I’m not fussed about that one as I feel super happy I even spoke to them and got their number.. I don’t know,I just feel like one of those “looks are everything” types of guys and feel I’ll be lonely forever..I would like marriage later down the line (way down the line) but now it would be nice to go on dates etc Last time i got laid was last year..embarrassing lol I apologise for my bad articulation I find it hard to write things like this. I’ve also attached my current tinder/bumble pics etc
Doorstep Cold Approach? Hi Guys, hope you are all well..so today I had a good confidence boost. So like many of you i am working from home,so im doing my work and then i hear the doorbell ring now im thinking its my postman as i am expecting some parcels..but no its a very very pretty girl (7/10) so she was a university student who is from europe and shes here to study..she is also doing an internship and that selling books..so she knocks on my door and wants to sell me these book,but the conversation steers away to what shes studying..her home country etc etc..and this convo goes on for a while,i would say 30-40minutes and at the end we exchanged numbers and i said id take her out for a drink or shisha (hookah) sometime if she wanted. now bearing in mind she might be fickle and change her mind and not even reply to my texts. however the point is for you guys is to just fucking try..the worst thing that can happen is them saying "no" (in some instances you will get a rude response but who cares) i wasnt wearing a nice shirt with nice jeans and smelling good..i was literally wearing some shorts,a t shirt with my breakfast all over it...no shower or nothing..but we had a convo for 30-40 minutes.
Guys, If a girl doesn’t message you first does that mean she has no burning desire for you? I know a lot of women who don’t message men first but what do you think?
