Comments by rick l
Joined 5y agoYes. What did your bio say that built "anticipation" for the girl? Were you describing what you would do to her?
I ask because you mention in the product that girls like anticipation, so getting a feel for conveying this by text is good.
I'm by no means an expert, but 2 things stand out immediately:
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From the beginning she sounded like she had an idea of the plans, but that you were going back on them (park versus meeting indoors). That wasn't a shit test, but a concern from her. When she pointed out about her exam, that made it clear that she was concerned about the whole social distancing. I would have avoided pushing back. Either state "let's meetup after your exam" or do the park date. The first option shows you have options and aren't needy, but length of time can diminish attraction if it's too long.
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You text a lot. I'd look at some of your interactions and practice saying those same things in fewer words. Some of what you text is unnecessary, but just practice using fewer words. Then practice leaving out unnecessary texts. Example - your first four texts:
You: I'll be back by 8ish
You: And then gotta cook dinner
You: You can join me
You: As long as you don't burn the house down EMOJI
Better:
You: You can join me cooking dinner at 8ish as long as you don't burn the house down
Even better:
You: I'll be back around 8 to cook dinner. Join me
That makes sense. My thinking was she's not really biting on the conversation, so bait her to invest more. When a girl isn't investing much into the conversation, how do you get the girl more invested WITHOUT using baiting?
Yes. For each of these girls, I just sent the Ryan Gosling meme as an open. 0 responded (no screenshots necessary since it's just the meme).
Thanks; I did forget to add on the first day of texting (Monday), we had already discussed meeting in person one day that week, so without that context it does seem like a jump to get her schedule without knowing if she was open to meet that week or if it had been discussed.
I have watched your video about 4 examples of cold open text game (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XO5T8MtuL_Q). On soft closes, are these examples of soft closes:
- We can change that
- We should hang out sometime
- We should celebrate

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Definitely ask Alex. The only thing I can think of is "You'll have to earn those privileges" to flip the frame on her and make it clear that she has to please you first. Still, that implies that you may be ok with it and that's not great even if it does mean she has to work for it.