What can I learn from this unsuccesful interaction?
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3 Cmts
5y ago
Trying to learn from my previous approaches and successes and not so much about how and where I am going wrong and what I could improve upon.
She opened me through Bumble, was highly invested initially, we even had a good Video chat before all of this.
Couldn't meet instantly because of Covid and she was having exams.
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307 Posts (+139), 379 Cmts (+32)
If only I lived in your vacinity. I’d trade fitness training for a text game takeover. Lol
9 Posts (+1), 8 Cmts (+1)
I'm by no means an expert, but 2 things stand out immediately:
From the beginning she sounded like she had an idea of the plans, but that you were going back on them (park versus meeting indoors). That wasn't a shit test, but a concern from her. When she pointed out about her exam, that made it clear that she was concerned about the whole social distancing. I would have avoided pushing back. Either state "let's meetup after your exam" or do the park date. The first option shows you have options and aren't needy, but length of time can diminish attraction if it's too long.
You text a lot. I'd look at some of your interactions and practice saying those same things in fewer words. Some of what you text is unnecessary, but just practice using fewer words. Then practice leaving out unnecessary texts. Example - your first four texts:
You: I'll be back by 8ish
You: And then gotta cook dinner
You: You can join me
You: As long as you don't burn the house down EMOJI
Better:
You: You can join me cooking dinner at 8ish as long as you don't burn the house down
Even better:
You: I'll be back around 8 to cook dinner. Join me
3 Posts (+0), 8 Cmts (+1)
i second this. also the “9-5” part could have been a DLV, tho everything else in that text seemed fine.