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All text screenshots posted for context. Went on first date with this girl. It was going extremely well. Joking, dancing, lots of fun. Had an intense make out in the venue before we started to walk back to hers. She asked me what I was looking for, saying she didn’t want to be messed around. I told her something casual at first - not a ONS. She said we won’t be having sex on the first date. We’d had the same amount to drink but she’s a lot smaller so was pretty drunk - I was near sober. We got to hers and she started crying about it being a mess, saying “I didn’t think I’d like you enough to bring you home.” I cheered her up, ordered us food and put her to bed. She doubled down saying she didn’t want sex that night, and I told her I had no plans because she was much more drunk than I was. The next morning we went out for breakfast and hung out in town for a while. She still seemed into me, laughing at my lame jokes and being physical etc. She continued suggesting things for us to do for a while so I let it go on. Eventually she said she needed to clean and I said I needed to get home too. As you can see in the screenshots she has become very slow to respond compared to before. Today I learned about the point of no return and think I might have fucked this. I know people rarely fix this, so any tools and suggestions you can give me will be massively appreciated.

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Not my finest work but first hook up since new photos so thought I'd share anyway. (Sidenote: do people normally share these when they have a really good set of messages or just whenever?) She opened by referencing one of my photos. My response was meh but it worked. Started the convo, DHV'd, soft closed. Gained some investment and started logistics, then went for spontaneous meet. More logistics then she said she thought we were going out. Weird shit test I guess but passed it just fine. Also said I'd bring wine to smoothen things out - this helped a lot later. She added a time concern. I said I did too and gave the option for an earlier meet, but original suggestion was fine. Added one last DHV before heading over. When we met she was quite shy, but I kept the convo going and slowly escalated. We didn't drink much at all but she said she was starting to feel pretty drunk, so the wine was a big help. I kept building the physicality, did get to know you stuff mixed in with teasing, push pull and general playfulness. Took a while but eventually went in for the kiss and it was smooth sailing from there.

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Went to bed last night and this morning saw messages from last night seeing if I was around, obviously looking for a quick hook up. How do you guys normally respond to these?

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Been trying to take better photos but finding it difficult. Interested to hear any tips people have and how many matches you think I'd get with these

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Her: maybe we'll go back to mine once I know you're not psycho or a weirdo Me: dw, apparently that stuffs illegal so I had to give it up Her: shame I was secretly looking forward to it Suggestions?

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Unfortunately most of these messages were on snapchat so I don't have screenshots. I had previously mentioned to this girl that I built a night club in my room. She said she wanted to see it, but I was moving at the time so had to dismantle it. Yesterday she messaged me saying "You've moved into your new place now right?" I wanted to playfully misinterpret this and replied "Inviting yourself round already?" Looking back at this, I think I wasn't misinterpreting at all, but correctly interpreting. By replying as I did I make her feel slutty, so she doesn't feel as comfortable meeting me. My questions: Do you agree with my assessment? If yes, how can I fix it?

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