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Comments by Jon Baurman

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How would you come back when she just flips it back on you?
"Nah, but you probably talk to other girls like this right?"

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Thanks for that. I'm just curious how can I recover from this in the future and what could I have said instead for this texting sequence to have been Optimal so I don't make the same mistake next time? Because I seem to run into a lot of girls like this and I don't want to believe that they are all time wasters.

I know that if the girl is a hot babe she probably has hundreds of matches, so I want to change what I did so I don't come off weird again. For this one what would you have recommended I said instead to not come across as a weirdo instead of doing the 'your eyes tell me everything' cold read?

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Thank you for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate it. This is very helpful. I didn't think of it as Non-compliance, but now I have a better understanding, if she doesn't reply then treat it as non-compliance so don't reward with an IOI.

When I said "You're just my type" I was being sarcastic because she didn't reply, so it was kinda like saying wow..just my type. because of no response. But I didnt understand why some say "Thank you" like thank you that she's my type? kinda confusing so I didn't know what to say and when she says "Oh". I feel like a response like this is just as bad as no response because how am I supposed to proceed if she just responds like that do I just cut the thread and change the subject. Thats why I ended up saying how are the other boys treating you but in my situation, just to at least get her to reply with something I can work with thats not a boring 'hows your evening going' question. Any tips on more bait hooks I could use to get her to invest more just for the first few text exchanges? if I say something like 'well you may have at least one of my two weaknesses' and she doesn't reply... just wait about 3 days and then just answer my own question to re-initiate?

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J

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Is there any positives to sending a message like this to a girl who isn't putting you as a priority?
Me: "Your respect for my time is a turnoff so I'm gonna have to end it here. Good luck"
The reason I ask this is because I'm tired of getting girls numbers, but they only give it to me to "be nice" when they could have just rejected me, but instead they pretend to not see my message, they see it, but just don't open it so it doesn't show "read" receipt because when I double text the next day with a line like "If you're too nervous I'd understand" she would reply immediately with a lame excuse like "Sorry I'm so busy. Your messages are in the lower part sorting by time"
Normally when girls give me this BS excuse, I just take it as her saying she's not interested and stop trying and nothing comes from it, but instead, does it do any good to assert boundaries? Just want to know what message would you send that could help?

How do you know the right line between "going for what you want" and "being non-needy"? I have the mindset of abundance, but I always feel like I'm needy when I'm going for the hotter girl more than I should because she's a hottie so I'm really putting in more effort because she is above average in looks. So even though I'm going for the hottest girl, how do I make sure I stay below the needy threshold? Is there a certain rule to follow like if you are 3 texts deep without her responding, then a "Well I tried" should be the last texts until she replies and I should probably move on?

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How do you deal with a girls bad frame who tells you "Im quite busy right now so it may lead to a delay response to you"
I used to try to steal her frame and then reply to her saying "I'm actually really busy. I'll get back to you" but then I never got a text back. So is this helpful in any way or if a girl is already saying this then it is just a way for the girl to use an excuse for not being interested?

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J

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A girl recently ghosted me after she was showing so much interest but she spontaneously asked me what I was up to and asked me to meet up with her while she was with her friend. I didn't want to meet her spontaneously with her friend. She seemed mad I didn't show up so she's punishing me by not replying to my last text. What could I have changed in the convo to make it better and how do I revive this condo from here?

Her: What are you doing?
Me: At the gym. Getting jacked for our romantic date. You?
Her: Im chillin with a friend. If you wanna join please come
Me: Not sure when I am going to finish. I don't want to keep uyou waiting. Lets meet another night
Her: Sure, im just chillin here with my friend. Im not waiting but just tell me when your done?
Me: Sure. What are your plans tomorrow?
Her:Hmm, just gonna stay home and rest i guess...
Me: Lets meet tomorrow then. Feel spontaenous?
no reply
sent text 24 hours later
"And the best texter award goes to..."
No read or response after this.

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J

4 Posts (+5), 8 Cmts (+1)

What's your general response timeframe if she doesn't reply to you, how long do you wait until you double text?
If she takes 6 hours to reply, do you also wait 6 hours to reply back to her?
How about if she all of a sudden stops replying when you soft close her with "Do you like wine" or "We can split a bottle of wine at my patio" what is your ideal waiting time before you send a double text?

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