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So I've been seeing and talking to this girl since January, and I think I might've messed up on our 3rd date sadly and don't know where to go from here. Since our 3rd date, her response times have become longer, and sometimes she won't even bother to respond at all. In fact, she didn't even bother responding to my last text message. Just wanted to get your all's advice as to where I should go from here. Should I just give up and move on? Is there something I could say that can salvage our potential relationship? I was considering sending something like this to gauge how she feels but idk if that would be a good idea. "Listen, I genuinely enjoyed your company the last few dates, but I'm getting the opposite vibe from you. If you don't want to continue, I wish you'd just be up front and communicate that to me instead of leaving me hanging. Thanks." Haven't heard from her since last Monday. The convo in the screenshots are just after our 3rd date.

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So I've been talking to this girl for a couple days now and asked her what she was looking for on here. Wanted to get your all's thoughts on how I should respond. Was thinking about responding with "Oh, I would've never thought it was dirty" then separate message "Meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Maybe some kinky sex & cuddles." However, I'm afraid the kinky sex and cuddles line may scare her off. P.S. I'm not looking for a ONS, but something that could potentially form into a relationship.

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So I'm in the process of trying to set up a 4th date, but it appears that she has ghosted me in my last message, which is weird bc she was texting me back immediately up until I sent it. If she ends up not texting me back, would a good response be "Am I wrong?" Or is there something better I could send?

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Wanted to get your all's opinion on this. So I tried to set up a 3rd date for this weekend, but she has stuff going on. I then tried to set a definite date for the following weekend, but she told me "she'll have to check her schedule". Do you think this is her way of letting me down easy instead of giving me an outright no? She said she wanted to see me again after our second date, but it's just always hard to tell with women. Keep in mind that I tried to set this up on Tuesday, so this is way out in advance.

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So, we have been on two dates so far, and they both have been great. After our second date, she told me that she would like to see me again, so I hit her up on Friday to schedule another date, but she ghosted me before I could do so. I guess she didn't like my last message or something idk, not really sure what went wrong. I plan on getting back in touch with her in a few days but I'm not sure how I should reopen the conversation. What would be the best way to reopen the conversation in this situation? Also, any thoughts on where I might've went wrong would be greatly appreciated.

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I tried making a second date last week, but she mentioned that she was sick after I went for the close. I think she is being honest with me, but don't really know for sure. I got back in touch with her today to see how she was doing, and I don't really know where to go from here. Should I ask her if she's feeling well enough to get together or just re-open her in a few days and try again or what, and how would you recommend I respond to her last message?

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So, I've got a date set with a girl for Saturday, which is in about 6 days from now. The question is is should I continue texting her until the day of our date or should I not text her at all until I go to confirm on her? What exactly is the best course of action to keep the lead warm when the date is set so far in advance like this?

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