So for context, I've already met and slept with this girl about a week prior to this interaction. The night went well, we also talked and vibed really well in person. She wasn't looking for anything serious and neither am I but I usually don't say explicitly, I would just be vague about it i.e. it leads to whatever it leads to as I think committing to one of the other doesn't work. I was honestly waiting for her to message me as she seemed eager in person and said she would but a week had gone by so I thought I'd send her a meme that we both get due to our current university degree courses. The response I got seemed off like she was being difficult or that she seemed annoyed, when she wasn't like this initially it in person. I'd appreciate any advice I can with this.
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Felt it went downhill after she asked "I could ask you the same question". Didnt know how to answer and felt I lost control of it. I'm obviously not going to message again and possibly reopen in a few days if she doesn't respond so I'll post her response once/if she does. In the meantime what could have been better responses at each answer. Thanks
What would be the best way to reply to matches that haven't answered for a while, you reopen and they say things such as: Haha sorry I'm just never on here Haha sorry I'm the worst at replying Or just haha sorry. It's not the case where I can move it to text as I haven't bantered as much yet which would be the option if it's later on in the chat. It won't allow me to upload a screenshot atm but if it allows later I will.
Had the same issue a while ago about my convos becoming platonic and I've been improving that but in this convo she's asking the run-of-the-mill questions. Even though it's on my profile š she still asked me what I do for work. How can I inject something into the convo but still answer the question? Btw I'm a student - bartender just about to graduate.
As tinder doesn't allow photos to be uploaded therefore you can't upload memes, is the best way to reopen/reignite a chat a text message or a gif? What would good examples of GIFs that have worked in the same way some memes do?
It seems like she's down and I think a soft close or even closing isn't out of the question but am I rushing and if so how should I respond?
As the title states I'd appreciate some feedback and advice on how to build from here. Chat 1: Opened with "hey trouble" and simply got a "hey" back haha but anyway the girl seemed quite low interest so I tried investing a little to open it up a bit but didn't get much in return, with the last message being two laughing faces. Unsure how to reply as she doesn't give me much to go on. Chat 2: Poor opener as I misunderstood her bio š but it turned out to be amusing, feel like she gives off a playful vibe. Chat 3: I think this one was fine but feedback is still welcome. Felt like I spiked her interest and got her to qualify but I don't want to overdo it.
Context - says she was Italian in her bio but doesn't speak it so I chose to open with what's written below but no answer so I followed about 5 days later to this response. Seems like the "scared off" is probably referring to the jokingly introducing her to my nonna (which was a joke) as this maybe portrayed some sort "looking for committment" from my part even though I'm not. I tried essentially sidestepping it by jokingly assuming she was on about finding Italian hard and in turn scary to learn. What I was going to do is just let this match be i.e. if she responds she responds if not nothing kind of thing, but I'd like to know other peoples opinions on both what to do and whether I didn't imply it enough that I was joking and came on too strong.
