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Went on a first date with a girl where we got drinks, and it went pretty well. After drinks, we ended up hanging out in the lounge of my apartment where I started escalating more. I put my arm around her and hand on her thigh, which she was very receptive to. I went for the kiss, but she pulled back and asked what I was looking for. She said she doesn’t do hook ups but is also not sure if she wants a relationship. I basically said the same thing and that I’m just going with the flow until I meet the right person. So eventually we start getting more and more touchy with each other, and she’s the one who actually asks if we can go up to my apartment. We end up going up to my place and start hooking up within like 5 mins. Eventually she said she had to leave because she has work to do the next day, so I dropped her off and we kissed one last time. The next day I texted her that I had fun last night, to which she hasn’t responded in over 24 hrs. I know it’s probably over, but is there anything I could text her to try and save this as a last attempt? She’s 100% my type and I really want to make it work. To me, I feel like the only reason she’d ghost is because she didn’t enjoy the sex. She did say she doesn’t do hook ups, but then ghosted after we hooked up so I’m completely confused here. TLDR: No response after I texted her “last night was fun” after a first date where we had sex. What should I follow up with?

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Dealing with really shitty logistics here. She lives a bit over an hour away and doesn’t know how to drive. I also can’t drive lol. Is it a lost cause or what would be my best option if I wanted to make something happen

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It's my last week in a city I've been staying in and I'm trying to schedule a date with a girl. She says she's only available on Thursday before 3pm or between 5-8pm. Should I try to schedule something between 5-8pm? Any tips on dealing with time constraints and not feeling rushed during the date?

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I’ve been using the “so I guess we’re dating now” opener and usually the girl will say something like “oh really?” What would be a good response line to this? And how would I sexualize from there?

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What should you do if a girl doesn't have that many pics, uses snapchat filters, or doesn't have full body pics and you're not sure if she's actually attractive. Just take the chance? Or ask her for more pics(how would you do this without being creepy?) I could ask for her insta but I don't have one unfortunately

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