Went on a first date with a girl where we got drinks, and it went pretty well. After drinks, we ended up hanging out in the lounge of my apartment where I started escalating more. I put my arm around her and hand on her thigh, which she was very receptive to. I went for the kiss, but she pulled back and asked what I was looking for. She said she doesn’t do hook ups but is also not sure if she wants a relationship. I basically said the same thing and that I’m just going with the flow until I meet the right person. So eventually we start getting more and more touchy with each other, and she’s the one who actually asks if we can go up to my apartment.
We end up going up to my place and start hooking up within like 5 mins. Eventually she said she had to leave because she has work to do the next day, so I dropped her off and we kissed one last time.
The next day I texted her that I had fun last night, to which she hasn’t responded in over 24 hrs. I know it’s probably over, but is there anything I could text her to try and save this as a last attempt? She’s 100% my type and I really want to make it work. To me, I feel like the only reason she’d ghost is because she didn’t enjoy the sex. She did say she doesn’t do hook ups, but then ghosted after we hooked up so I’m completely confused here.
TLDR: No response after I texted her “last night was fun” after a first date where we had sex. What should I follow up with?
Honestly dude unless you were considering wifing her up, then you've lost nothing and you've already got the lay count so you've won, just text her again in a week she'll probably message u before then if she's interested
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Seems like the sex wasn't great at all. Especially for the fact that she didn't want round 2 and she left immediately after the first round
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yeah man you just texted a statement so no response can be expected
for me personally, the best text is a funny one related to a topic you spoke about in person.
but judging by what you wrote about her not wanting hookup a generic response could be
"we should plan a day out sometime ;)"
assuming you want to appease her into thinking and also dont want just a hookup situation
let us know how it goes, best wishes
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I actually did ask a question as well in addition to “last night was fun”, so it’s not that I just texted a statement. I do feel like she seemed more distant right after sex and she didn’t stay to cuddle or anything. She just said that she should get going as it was getting late. I feel like something’s up, so should I just be upfront about it and ask her what’s up? Or take the non confrontational approach and text something a few days later just to reengage
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bro better to post the whole text thread for better context as its harder to follow, the question you asked is important to know