yeah this usually only works if you’re hot and she’s DTF. Most women want a little more build up.... a lot of girls also are looking for actual dates rather than fuck buddies. need to establish what she’s looking for first before sending this kind of message....

but if you’re a 10, go for it lol

attraction level/interest is not high enough yet. that invitation only works if you’re very hot and she’s DTF. Most girls aren’t.

She needs more emotional investment. Have to say something to make her laugh, think, or wonder.

It probably also highly depends on location.... in the SF Bay Area BDSM was all over the place so it would be strange for someone to get angry. But if you are in a more conservative area, it might be unfamiliar or weird to them.

Sometimes it is easier to introduce in person. You can brush it off as a joke if you say it in person, with a winking smile, and see if they play along with it or not.

suggesting it as punishment for them being a boring texter might work sometimes with kinky girls, but usually at that point in the convo they don’t have enough attraction/investment to be open to it.

also always remember: what works for a dude who is an 8-10 doesn’t necessarily work for a guy who is a 4-7

Lol this is a brilliant response. “Having a type” is such a common thing for both men and women, so her reply was really petty/silly and needs to be called out

I think “yes, is that so wrong” came off a little defensively in this situation. She was making a joke... you should have ran with it and made it even more of a joke like “Yeah, young kids are into all sorts of things these days, tik tok, FaceTime, doing lines of cocaine at 3am on top of the public library” just something crazy/wacky that would have made her giggle

Bro I think you kind of fucked things up by just straight out denying her friend request. Very few women will offer to hang out with you as friends.... VERY FEW. So if one does, take her up on it. If you have good in-person game you can easily turn a friendship into something more.... or if she just doesn’t have any attraction for you, well maybe just learn something interesting from her.

Why would she want to talk to someone who just denied her friend request four days later? Makes no sense

This is a good question and I appreciate you asking it, shows you have a good heart. As long as you just communicate in some form, that is automatically less douchy than most guys who will just ghost.

The most gentle way to say it would be “hey, I’m sorry we haven’t hung out lately. Things have gotten hectic in my life and I don’t feel like I can give you the attention you deserve right now. Instead of stringing you along waiting for my schedule to open up, I just wanted to let you know I’ll be off the grid for a few months taking care of shit. I really valued our time together though ❤️“

Some women just aren’t into kink and you’ll have to accept that. However, the feminism excuse is silly because some of the most feminist women I’ve dated have also been the most kinky. Kink can be very empowering for women if it is their choice.

You’re in shape which is great, but just gotta be honest you have a face that looks like you’re an asshole lol Not smiling works best if you’re super handsome or super masculine, but you kind of give off this punk-ass teenager vibe, especially in the pic wearing a white hat showing your chest tattoo.

Only good pics IMO are the 1st and 5th photos. Swap out the others, show yourself actually with the dog rather than the dog by itself

I like “oooh yelling my name already, huh?” But don’t think too hard about this one.... keep us updated