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So basically the title Last night, (Saturday) I matched with 25 yr old from online (It turns out we had matched on a different site about 5 months prior and exchanged numbers. I still had her contact info in my phone, and our texts from 5 months ago) We chatted on the phone, had good rapport. She suggests we hang out, I didn't even push for it She lives 45 miles away, and doesn't have a car We agreed I'll pick her up and we'll hang out at my place (She's very cute so it was worth it) During the 45 minute car ride to my place, we held hands, had great rapport, fun conversation, had my hand on her thigh, etc (I'm emphasizing here I had reason to believe it "was on") Back at my place we cuddled, made out on the couch, moved to the bed then she got annoying and difficult, wouldn't take off any clothes and I realized she's not going to put out at this point I was no longer interested in continuing the date I wanted her to leave so I can get on with my evening But I'm conflicted: am I now obligated to drop her off home, driving 90 miles round trip? I felt a very strong obligation to drop her off at the location I got her. But on the other hand, she wasted my time and I felt like I would be getting taken advantage of if I transport her. I'm not her damn Uber Today, this idea came to me: I could have dropped her off at a 24-hour gas station near my place and said, "hey, it was nice hanging out, take it easy" and just leave. (Maybe hand her 20 bucks cash). She'd think I'm an asshole, but could I get in trouble/bad consequences for doing that? (I have an interior dashcam so I'm not worried about false accusations). That's where I'll end the scenario and ask my question. What would you have done? (Apart from not getting into that situation to begin with). (However, what wound up happening is this: I thought maybe she needed 2 dates to feel comfortable. We left my place and took her out for pizza that night. While we were out she said, "we should hang out again and get an earlier start". Then I drove her back. . When dropping her off, she repeated that she wanted to hang out again. Of course today she ghosted. The upshot is: I got nothing out of it, I entertained her, I drove 180 miles and I wasted a Saturday night I could have been out talking to other girls).

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After several exchanges, girl from an online site showed interest and pitched the first date as follows: "Would you ever be down to go for a walk with my dog and I in one of the parks here in town?" Normally I'd be down for meeting in a park. I'm hesitant about bringing her dog, though. I love dogs but I don't like the idea of the dog being the center of attention. I like to hold the girl's hand, bring her toward me, get physical. Dog is an unknown variable. They can cockblock, interfere with getting physical, give the girl an excuse to relieve the tension by diverting her attention away from me My gut tells me it's a valid concern. How to not have the dog come? Thanks!

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I'd like to see this girl again. Met online, talked on the phone the week leading up to the date Had a great rapport over the phone. Our first meet, she was dressed up in a dress (I like that), I took her to dinner Went back to my place, slept together. Dropped her off cause it was getting late Suggested we should get together again, and she agreed I thought everything went well. I texted her the next day, just saying hello. Radio silence from her Then the following day she texts me (see attachment). Obviously she's having buyer's remorse, but it wasn't a "hook up" to me Maybe call instead of texting? Just tell her I enjoyed hanging out and we should get together soon? Experienced, field tested replies only, Thank you!

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Date was all set up, 45 minutes before we're supposed to meet she messages me, "can I ask you a question- I just want to feel safe before meeting a stranger.." I said, "that's why we're meeting in public with other people around, ask me anything when we're there" Then she sends me this: (see attachment) LOL "the CDC guidelines" šŸ™„ "I have a young son, so I need to make sure I don't spread it" This is so ignorant on so many levels, I debated back and forth what to say, couldn't think of anything that could get through to someone who thinks like this and blocked her. What would you have said? Thanks

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I don't often get impromptu photos conveying social proof like this, so I'd hate to see it go to waste If I used it, it would be the last photo in a set of multiple photos, kind of like a tag. Some sites let you use a caption, so I'd say something like, "just a friend who came up to hear me play!" Yay or Nay?

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Howdy, gentlemen, I recently viewed a youtube infomercial for an online-dating product in which the creator/marketer claims to have found "the best pose for your profile photo" and he furthermore goes on to say something to the effect, "women can't help but have an emotional response to this pose-- and, no it's not posing with a dog" I believe he also said, "and you don't have to have model looks for this pose to work, it works for average-looking guys" or something like that. I don't want the entire product, I just want to know what he thinks this "best pose" is. Dammit. I'm a photographer. If anyone can find out what this specific pose is (specifically for this product) I'll do a photo shoot on me, free of charge. (If you come out to Kentucky on your own dime, lol). Any guesses what it might be?

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I'd rather date girls 21-29. Is that realistic if you're in your 30's, (say 35-38). I know on POF (just using it as an example, not recommending using it since the site is dumpster diving), you can set a fake age such as "25" so you'll be seen in the search results by girls in that range, then in your profile say, "I'm 35, the site won't let me change it". If that kind of strategy isn't recommended on Tinder (haven't used it yet), are you pretty much stuck with women +/- 7 or so years of your own age? Thanks.

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"Snapchat?" I'm not photogenic, my online photos are carefully curated to make me look as cool and interesting as possible. But all that effort I went through to get them can all be undone by ONE shitty random cellphone selfie which seems obligatory on snapchat. Is there anyway to divert the girl away from snapchat, or do you just treat it as a next? (That is, if you're like me and you don't look good in random cellphone selfies). I tried to think of a witty reply such as, "I tried snapchat but it sucked so I deleted it, and I vowed to myself the only girl I'll ever snapchat with is my future wife, lol. We can text, or do you have kik?" Thanks for reading. PS I keep ONE cell-phone selfie as backup in which I look as good as possible , which, if need be, I can send over text or kik and won't send the girl away. When sending it over kik it shows up as coming from my camera roll and not "live view", but so far girls haven't asked for a "live view" pic on kik.

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