I agree to pick up 25 yr old woman.. She doesn't put out. I'm obligated to drive her back?
9 Posts (-1), 19 Cmts (+3)
So basically the title
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Last night, (Saturday) I matched with 25 yr old from online
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(It turns out we had matched on a different site about 5 months prior and exchanged numbers. I still had her contact info in my phone, and our texts from 5 months ago)
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We chatted on the phone, had good rapport. She suggests we hang out, I didn't even push for it
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She lives 45 miles away, and doesn't have a car
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We agreed I'll pick her up and we'll hang out at my place (She's very cute so it was worth it)
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During the 45 minute car ride to my place, we held hands, had great rapport, fun conversation, had my hand on her thigh, etc (I'm emphasizing here I had reason to believe it "was on")
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Back at my place we cuddled, made out on the couch, moved to the bed
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then she got annoying and difficult, wouldn't take off any clothes and I realized she's not going to put out
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at this point I was no longer interested in continuing the date
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I wanted her to leave so I can get on with my evening
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But I'm conflicted: am I now obligated to drop her off home, driving 90 miles round trip?
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I felt a very strong obligation to drop her off at the location I got her. But on the other hand, she wasted my time and I felt like I would be getting taken advantage of if I transport her. I'm not her damn Uber
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Today, this idea came to me: I could have dropped her off at a 24-hour gas station near my place and said, "hey, it was nice hanging out, take it easy" and just leave. (Maybe hand her 20 bucks cash).
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She'd think I'm an asshole, but could I get in trouble/bad consequences for doing that? (I have an interior dashcam so I'm not worried about false accusations).
That's where I'll end the scenario and ask my question. What would you have done? (Apart from not getting into that situation to begin with).
(However, what wound up happening is this: I thought maybe she needed 2 dates to feel comfortable. We left my place and took her out for pizza that night. While we were out she said, "we should hang out again and get an earlier start". Then I drove her back. . When dropping her off, she repeated that she wanted to hang out again. Of course today she ghosted. The upshot is: I got nothing out of it, I entertained her, I drove 180 miles and I wasted a Saturday night I could have been out talking to other girls).
yeah man, never do anything like this, I understand it sucks but also date 2 could have go a lot smoother.
Honestly idk why but ever since I been using non-sexualized bio/messaging(due to ban worry) only 50% of my online dates are lays.
Not sure if you are facing the same thing
20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
Simple, don’t match with women who live 45 miles away. I don’t know you, I’m sure you’re an okay guy, but leaving her at a gas station because she wouldn’t put out would be an extremely douche move. Did you try “two steps forward, one step back”? In the end she doesn’t owe you sex.
You definitely have to take her back out of principle unless there was a communicated agreement, like an escort.
If you’re going to give up after the first date you shouldn’t bother driving for the first one trust me. Hardest advice I had to learn on my own. You want to fill the time with an attempt but you’re better off focusing on increasing your SMV then chasing girls that you want to one and done.
16 Posts (-1), 12 Cmts (-1)
You driving that far is a already a huge investment on your part.. she sees it as okay this guy had to drive this far to seem me and get pussy.. so it must mean he doesn’t get any or its few in between so he drove here because he likes me and im not going to fuck him because of that hes a “nice guy”... trust me it won’t work in your favor I have learned my lesson and its just best to meet someone half way near a location close to your house so your not wasting time if shes non compliant.. you just leave.. if she can’t meet you half way just ghost her because shes the typw to want to waste your time 9/10 times.. always remember she will pay and dress up, drive miles to be standing near a guy she desires... hell drake throws parties with women who dress up come to see him but not be able to talk to him lol
2 Posts (+1), 14 Cmts (+11)
Hey man if you agreed to pick her up with the previous knowledge that she had no car then you should drive her back / get her an Uber. if you just dumped her at a random gas station after she wouldn’t bang thats recipe for a false rape accusation.
Also sounds like you got lmr and just bugged out.
In the future just screen for girls that are closer to your house or have cars