This is probably the worst text msg I have received yet and at the absolute wrong time when I am flooded with school work. This is what she messages me: "Hey yuvi! It was nice getting to know you and I truly do appreciate all of our dates I did want to let you know I found a stronger connection with someone else and now. I'm in a relationship."
On the first date, I took her to dave and busters, we got food after that and then I banged her in the car. Second date we went on, we went for a walk on a street, got food after and then I fingered her but didn't bang her this time. On the third date she told me "I don't want to have sex right now because of your intentions." So it seems she was skeptical about my intentions. On the fourth date, we end up going to wonderland and at the end she asks me "when am I seeing you again, not to sound pushy."
I made a lot of mistakes when seeing this girl of course: first one was spending too much money, second one was not making her cum during sex but the thing is she was wet when we were banging so I'm not sure if that means anything, maybe I got a little emotionally attached. But what I don't understand is that she kept saying "I want a strong emotional connection" and was withholding sex I guess to get that, playing psychological tricks. All I know is that we both enjoyed the sex (I even asked her after and she said she did enjoy it) and she let me smash on the first date and decided to see me 3 more times after that. Was she testing the waters? I am super confused as to why she said this.
During the 3rd date, when she withheld sex I asked her is the problem anything physical? She said no. Anything mental? Ans: no. She was just worried about my intentions is what she kept saying.
I am not sure if she is seeing someone else or not, maybe she is lying, idk... but I just want to know what I did wrong that led her to sending that. We met off of hinge btw. I've watched playingwithfire's video about why it is important to have sex on the first date so that it builds investment, and it seems she was invested but there was not an emotional connection which idek what that means.
I feel embarrassed sending this, but I am listening to playingwithfire's advice from now on about cold approach and will be serious about it forever. I just feel like shit, confused and downright crushed with my confidence: I am having so many doubts with my ability to get a girlfriend, sex, my looks, my bedroom skills. When it comes to physical I am 6ft tall, in pretty good shape, decent looking face, decent voice and I do not have a small schlong at all, literally. SO what did I do wrong? I literally feel embarrassed saying all this, but I'm going to continue going out there and cold approaching consistently. Please tell me where I went wrong though?
