I recently watched a the denmo podcast and I really dislike the idea of gradually progressing by being friends first and then going forward. I personally like the idea of seeing a girl I like and approaching her no matter where it is. Sure gradual progression can work if I’m in a group activity or club like salsa, improv, intramural sports or whatever but I’m a strong believer in cold approach. And one thing that kinda gets on my nerves is why does it have to be at a bar specifically or a girl who I see everyday in the elevator? Wtf?!
Alex, I want to ask you: is it possible to get a girlfriend by literally seeing a cute girl on the STREET or anywhere random, approaching her with good game (she doesn’t even have to give me “choosing signals”) we vibe, I get her number, we go on a date, we hook up and then we start dating and she’s my girlfriend now?
I’m sick of all the YouTube content, I just want to get out there and get to work by approaching. I just want to know if this is possible, that’s it.
Just to add: in terms of smv: I’m 6ft tall, good looking (people have told me), in shape, financial situation is moving in a positive direction because I’ll be moving out pretty soon within the next 6-8 months, hopefully, my age is 23 and I dress well. So no need to mention smv over and over again.
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That's how my parents met, in a cafe with his boys, saw her walking by and just went for it. Still married to this day so yeah. it's possible bro.
23 Posts (+4), 187 Cmts (+71)
I'm not Alex but you're pretty much answering your question here: "Alex, I want to ask you: is it possible to get a girlfriend by literally seeing a cute girl on the STREET or anywhere random, approaching her with a good game (she doesn’t even have to give me “choosing signals”) we vibe, I get her number, we go on a date, we hook up and then we start dating and she’s my girlfriend now?"
Here's a short Alex did of how simple a street approach can be with a bit of luck: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Efit5LN5a3g
I will say my experience has always when dating is that as long as I'm consistent with the woman (texting, dating, fucking her well) she will eventually either ask "Hey what are we?" or "accidentally" call you her boyfriend and watch your reaction. So the woman is the one that decides she wants to progress the relationship, if you try to it always ended in disaster for me.
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Appreciate it man. I think YouTube and online has completely fucked up the concept of dating, how it works and everything. I’ve pretty much gone through all the self improvement content you can think of: red pill, black pill, Andrew Tate, Austin Dunham, all these dumbasses who have no clue what they’re talking about. I love Alex’s videos and the advice you have just given.
23 Posts (+4), 187 Cmts (+71)
Sounds like you have overindulged in the self-improvement videos. My advice is to choose 3 channels MAX to follow that match with your goals
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Yeah man. Definitely highly likely. Most of the times, the girls you see in broad daylight are girls who never go out clubbing, don't have a party lifestyle, not on dating apps (don't use them at all even if they have them). And if you can hit it off in person, you can absolutely make her your gf.
But, there's a big caveat. Just because you WANT a gf doesn't mean you should make the first girl you get along with your GF. Go through a bunch of girls. A few casual rotations, gain more experience with women and so on, then and ONLY then choose from abundance. Dating with intentions straight away will lead to disappointments or girls feeling the pressure and moving on. So, you have to keep that in mind
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I appreciate it man thank you. I will put myself out there enough and do exactly what you said. And yes I watched your how to get a girlfriend video where you explain this exact concept. Going after just one girl can be very mentally damaging for both me and the girl. Not only that but the guy will start showing simpy behaviour which is just automatically going to turn the girl off.