Yeah I agree the vibe you sent of is 90% of the heavy lifting imo. I will check out the article, thanks!

Thanks, I just watched a few videos seems like some good material

Thanks for the nice step by step line you use. I'm probably also overthinking those situations in search of the best opener, but just a simple situational remark or commen denominator mixed with a joke should indeed be enough to get it started. Its probably also a numbers game for me getting over that initial anxiety, when I know there is a 1% chance she is interested I'm the most confident guy but when I don't have that 1% knowledge I overthink shit.

Thanks for your extensive feedback man! I will give this line of thought a go and see if I can make it my 2nd nature.

Its in Dutch, so dont now if that would really help. I will give you the english transcription of the chat, might have some minor translational nuances but tried my best haha

Me: Hey (name), if we were together would we be in a midlife crisis?

Her: haha tell how so

Me: both 25, together 50
Me: So we should buy a Harley Davidson

Her: hahah thats a really good idea. I drive ✋

Me: deal
Me: ill be on the back making some cocktails for us

Her: oeh nice
Her: Sex on the beach will always be my favorite

Me: its so happens to be that i have everything needed for a sex on the beach at home

Her: haha dream husband 😍

Me: then we should drink a few on my balcony

Her: yess good plan
Her: if it is dry

Me: it has a roof so always dry
Me: what does your schedule look like?

Her: oh that makes it a lot better