I have been on tinder again for a few months since my last break up and I am getting some good results. However, I notice that my cold approach skills are still lacking and I am finding it difficult to get back in the game so to say. This is making me miss out on opportunities and I would like to improve on this. Do you guys have some tips or ideas on how to open a girl during the day?
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I usually walk up and say hi, "Hi there, you look nice, what are you up to?" The key is to be chill. Here is an article telling exactly how to do it- https://datingisdifficult.com/how-to-approach-a-girl-everything-you-need-to-know/
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This is a very general question that theirs whole products on. But, generally this is what I do. My first choice is to think of a contextual/situational opener. So for example, a few days ago I was at a dog park and saw a hot girl. We were both wearing flip flops so as I walked past her I commented "Looks like you made the same mistake as me, making flip flops to the dog park" She laughed. I made a joke about stepping on dog shit, and then the conversation got started. That's usually the best way to open girls during day game. If I can't think of something like that though, I usually go direct. I'll say "Hey, this is kind of random, but I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you real quick"
From there, I just shoot the shit for a few minutes. I'll make jokes and also ask some pretty general questions like if she's from here, what part of town she's in. I balance it out though by being funny and witty. The more important part is your body language and your tonality. You can say the perfect line but if you say it with poor tonality it's not gonna do you much good. Also, eye contact is very important.
I keep the close very simple. I tell her we should grab a drink sometime and after she agrees, I get her number. A lot of guys make the mistake her of going for the Instagram, but that is a pussy move and is likely to lead to a dead end. Always go for the number or WhatsApp first. You can then ask her for her Instagram over text if you want.
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Thanks for the nice step by step line you use. I'm probably also overthinking those situations in search of the best opener, but just a simple situational remark or commen denominator mixed with a joke should indeed be enough to get it started. Its probably also a numbers game for me getting over that initial anxiety, when I know there is a 1% chance she is interested I'm the most confident guy but when I don't have that 1% knowledge I overthink shit.
Thanks for your extensive feedback man! I will give this line of thought a go and see if I can make it my 2nd nature.
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Try to trick yourself into thinking that every girl is interested.