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Hi guys, this may sound conceited, but I have a weird problem Girls become insanely attached to me. This has happened 3 times in a row now. with 2 of them being pretty severe. These aren't even girls who are regularly clingy. I won't go over it in detail, but last gf basically tried to kill herself when our relationship was on the rocks and says she still loves me. I know thats an outlier. She's getting treatment and she's doing alright now. Another girl who could basically have any guy it was the same thing. She became super attached and came over un announced and confessed her love and even implied we'd have good children. Professional career type western woman, it was weird, maybe she had bipolar disorder. I don't know, her behaviour was so weird and she started acting as attached as my last ex and I ended it because it was too much too fast. Same with newest girl recently. FWB for 2 months, finally felt like I had something "normal" then she revealed that she was moving away for work a few hours away, I basically told her well nice knowing you, and she flipped out. Was hoping I'd fall in love with her by that point and that I'd be willing to do long distance. She confessed she lied about being ok with FWB and was playing it cool outwardly but had burning love. She kept sending me text bombs about her love for me and sending me food delivery and care packages, I ended up telling her to stop contacting me cause it felt like stalker situation all 3 girls had high smv and no previous history of acting like this afaik, my SMV itself is not super high but I get 9.0 on photo feeler easily enough. but they also get attached maybe because I make a lot of money, have a powerful political job that has big implications for my country, I'm a great cook, good lover (2 of these girls have said I was their best ever by far) etc. Its not like every girl, but it happens after they get to know me. I also have a hard time not being overly caring and compassionate and girls try to lock me down and things never stay casual and get intense fast. I have a psych and she basically told me they are getting attached to me because in her words, I'm a really good catch and I'm letting them know too much about myself too soon and that I should take things a lot slower with girls and focus a lot more on screening needy women even if it means taking things slow for weeks or months. But I already screen needy women, all these girls seemed aloof for the first while that I was texting them. I literally have a fear of women now, apart from the things I mentioned, what should I do? Or idk, I could simply be subconciously seeking out mentally unstable women, I just don't know.

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Hey, first of all since I started 1 month ago my text game has massively improved, actually it's improved a little too fast, now I have other parts of my overall game lacking, and in need of tips. I've been talking to this girl, she's massively invested and sending tonnes of texts, but passed over my more kinky texts completely, I opted to ask for a walk because I myself would like to learn if she's reasonably isolated from covid before coming over, I have a respiratory illness so I'm pretty cautious. Oh by the way, she's about 8-9/10, very hot. I live in Canada so it's freezing outside this time of year and also it's nighttime at 5pm. She's in the same neighbourhood as me but it's a rough neighbourhood. I initally thought of inviting her out around 5pm and inviting her back to my place for supper, but realized it would be weird to walk around freezing at night in a bad neighbourhood so I opted to ask her out around 1 or 2pm and arrange for supper ANOTHER night. Not really the recommended approach but see my next point. There's also another elephant in the room and there's no point beating around the bush about it. I have PTSD from my ex girlfriend suddenly having a psychotic break, attacking me then trying to kill herself violently in front of me while I attempted to restrain her... that happened about a year and a half ago. I have been to a psych the whole time, but my PTSD can cause me massive stress when alone with a girl I don't completely trust yet. I haven't tried dating in 9 months, and my last dating escapade ended when the girl scratched my back in the middle of sex hard and it triggered a flashback which totally ruined everything between us. So I'm really scared to my PTSD will blow this one too eventually. Maybe that's beyond the scope of what anyone here can help me with but even my psych can only go so far and as she's a woman doesn't really understand the nuances of going through this as a guy trying to get laid. It's still been another 9 months of treatment and reflection so perhaps I won't have problems at all.. I also spoke with my ex a few months ago and got cathartic release and closure.. something I didn't have before (oh and I've been to an escort to try and rehabilitate myself and that went alright too). Just still a little nervous. Another thing is I also have an pretty thick penis (nothing insane, just on the thicker end) and some girls it's really hard to have sex with at first. Some girls love it some hate it. Please I'm not lying about this or humbebragging, its just the truth. My solution is to take things slow and gentle and POSSIBLY... be honest if the vibe is right. I guess I could do mutual masturbation with her at first, I have the hitachi wand coming in soon. So yeah, for those reasons I'm kind of nervous to "get back in the game" and not sure what the right headspace approach is.

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Hello PWF, let me introduce myself. I already know my game is awful. My SMV isn't holding me back as much as my mediocre real life game but my awful text game really kills me. Please criticize me, don't hold back. This is as far as I've got with a conversation on dating apps with a girl I was actually attracted to. I have gotten farther with others but its girls I wouldn't actually hook up with once I realize they don't really look like their pics Please understand I am not particularly attached to this girl, its just that its pretty exemplary I think of what goes wrong in my text game habitually Things I think went wrong: 1)when she asked why I was her type, I totally chickened out and went for a non-sexual answer, in general I have fears of coming off as sexual and its really hard to shake 2) WAY too invested, massive wall of text, idk, I just got really excited and seemed to have scared her off, and probably should have not messaged her on christmas like as if she was my gf or something (I have problems being needy) things I'm not sure about 1) How would I have sexualized this? Idk but I got vibes she was more sexual from her profile and I chickened out. I'm actually really kinky and dominant but have trouble getting this across. 2)what are some examples of things I can say to reignited this conversation? I feel like I overinvested and I should wait at least 2 weeks before texting again to negate needyness vibes and keep it simple, but not sure how I can recover after texting her like that.

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