Hey, first of all since I started 1 month ago my text game has massively improved, actually it's improved a little too fast, now I have other parts of my overall game lacking, and in need of tips.
I've been talking to this girl, she's massively invested and sending tonnes of texts, but passed over my more kinky texts completely, I opted to ask for a walk because I myself would like to learn if she's reasonably isolated from covid before coming over, I have a respiratory illness so I'm pretty cautious. Oh by the way, she's about 8-9/10, very hot.
I live in Canada so it's freezing outside this time of year and also it's nighttime at 5pm. She's in the same neighbourhood as me but it's a rough neighbourhood. I initally thought of inviting her out around 5pm and inviting her back to my place for supper, but realized it would be weird to walk around freezing at night in a bad neighbourhood so I opted to ask her out around 1 or 2pm and arrange for supper ANOTHER night. Not really the recommended approach but see my next point.
There's also another elephant in the room and there's no point beating around the bush about it. I have PTSD from my ex girlfriend suddenly having a psychotic break, attacking me then trying to kill herself violently in front of me while I attempted to restrain her... that happened about a year and a half ago. I have been to a psych the whole time, but my PTSD can cause me massive stress when alone with a girl I don't completely trust yet. I haven't tried dating in 9 months, and my last dating escapade ended when the girl scratched my back in the middle of sex hard and it triggered a flashback which totally ruined everything between us. So I'm really scared to my PTSD will blow this one too eventually. Maybe that's beyond the scope of what anyone here can help me with but even my psych can only go so far and as she's a woman doesn't really understand the nuances of going through this as a guy trying to get laid. It's still been another 9 months of treatment and reflection so perhaps I won't have problems at all.. I also spoke with my ex a few months ago and got cathartic release and closure.. something I didn't have before (oh and I've been to an escort to try and rehabilitate myself and that went alright too). Just still a little nervous.
Another thing is I also have an pretty thick penis (nothing insane, just on the thicker end) and some girls it's really hard to have sex with at first. Some girls love it some hate it. Please I'm not lying about this or humbebragging, its just the truth.
My solution is to take things slow and gentle and POSSIBLY... be honest if the vibe is right. I guess I could do mutual masturbation with her at first, I have the hitachi wand coming in soon.
So yeah, for those reasons I'm kind of nervous to "get back in the game" and not sure what the right headspace approach is.
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damn dude, sorry to hear about the crazy ex. So in terms of the PTSD, i reccommend trying hypno therapy, exposure therapy and EMDR. One of those or more is very likely to give you noticeable amounts of improvement. Ive persoanlly tryied hypno therapy and it was very intresting.
In terms of your date, Honestly you have the same chance of catching covid weather you are walking around with her or having her at your place since i assume you wont be walking 10ft apart from each other and likely to give her a hug when you first meet. Thus, theres really no benefit to doing a walking date in freezing weather in a sketchy neighborhood. Just take a shit load of Vitamic C, Zinc and Vitamin D then have her over. I persoanllly had it a few months ago and i knocked it out. You can do a Vitamin C IV which will knock it out.
In terms of having a thick dick, own that shit! Its an advantage not a disadvantage. Youll be good
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thanks for the advice alex, I may very well try hypnotherapy and ask my psych about EMDR.
I agree with you however, people in Canada are very submissive to what the rules are, much more than USA and I got kind of a straight edge vibe from, so I figured I'd have more chances if I saw her in person first
Thanks though, I think you're right on the size thing too
She ended up cancelling and seemingly getting cold feet. I tried for the past 2 days submitting the text images to my PC to censor the names (and then post them here) with no luck, google is freezing them in the outbox, which is why I took so long to reply. I'm going to try and censor them on my phone and make a post seperately to figure out where I went wrong.
I also had a video call tonight with another girl to try and set up a lay at my place and it was lame, and she ended up being like 40 pounds heavier than her pics and quite boring. Hopefully I'll get something promising soon.