Hey. There's this girl I meet on tinder, we have been on one date already, it went well but there was a misunderstanding that we fixed later by text. Three days after that(yesterday) i text her to invite her to another date. She agrees but when I wanted to set a day, she stopped responding. It's now about one day with no reply. What should I do? I can't post screenshots because the conversation is not in english, so I'll translate here. Me: (Her first and second name) how's it going Her: Heyy Her: Doing great. How about you? Me: Cool, I'm doing great too, just finishing work. So, question, how do you feel about tacos? Her: In what sense? Her: Hahah Me: i mean if it's a type of food you like Her: Yes I like them Me (Voice note): Look so I discovered this amazing taco place downtown and because you took me to the best wings I've had, it's only fair I take you to the best tacos I've had. What do you think. Her: Yesss Me: Great. So when does it work for you. Friday or Saturday. And that was it. No reply.
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thanks man, i appreciate that. I learned this lesson the hard way but quite often a date that did not end in sex, didn't really go as well as you thought you did. Think about it this way, you get out of a long sales appointment and your manager asks how it went, you say it was great. So the manager asks you how many units did the customer buy, you say none, but the vibe was great. Your manager looks at you and shakes his head. The point is that actions speak a lot louder than words. Thats not to say, if you dont sleep with a girl for the first not. Its over, far from it, but I have found that it is that it can be very tricky. Check out my video on "how to get girls that you did not hook up with on the first date" i give multiple examples there. In your situation at this point the chick might have lost interest or might still be interested but forgot to text you back. But really no way to tell so all you can do is run good game, be patient, persistent.
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Yes I understand. However I get the impression that in my country, hookup culture is not even close to being as prevalent in my country compared to the US. I know that because of the first date lays I've had, they have always been girls from Europe or the us, never from here (Colombia) or at least at my age and social class (middle class, early 20s). Probably it's because we leave the nest quite later so we don't have our own place to hookup easily.
Back to this girls case, she actually responded ininitating a new conversation. It went like this.
Her: Hey!
Me: hey hey, how's it going
Her: Going great. How about you?
Me: actually I got really good news in the morning, so I'm doing great too.
Her: Really? Tell me about it
Me: It's work related. It will sound even better with those tacos around though. (Refering to the taco place of our past conversation).
And no reply, she was replying right away until that point.
I don't know how to handle this. She's probably just wasting my time. I thought that maybe I brought up meeting too soon in that conversation, but it would also not make sense to chit chat when we have already met before and were even making plans a couple days ago. This way I'm making clear I'm not willing to be a pen pal she can text just to get rid of boredom.
But what's your take?
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dude ive been to columbia many times. ANd columbian girls are just as dtf if not more than girls in US. If you dont believe me just go thru the lay reports on the page. I have dozens to my travels to madia and mogata, the only difference between girls in columbia and girls in america is that they are more implicit to hookups meaning instead of saying "come over so we can have some fun" instead youd say "come over so we can have some wine"
In terms of this specific situation. I am not so sure why you are stuck on the tacos. Ive talked about this many times. For dates you wannna do wine at your house or a bar near by. Doing food dates is suboptimal. Also, i dont this girl is deliberately trying to waste your time. in all likley hood she is busy and probably still trying to decide about you. Your just going to have be patient and persistent. Wait a few days and if you dont hear from her then you could say "I have a better idea..."