Hey. There's this girl I meet on tinder, we have been on one date already, it went well but there was a misunderstanding that we fixed later by text. Three days after that(yesterday) i text her to invite her to another date. She agrees but when I wanted to set a day, she stopped responding. It's now about one day with no reply. What should I do? I can't post screenshots because the conversation is not in english, so I'll translate here. Me: (Her first and second name) how's it going Her: Heyy Her: Doing great. How about you? Me: Cool, I'm doing great too, just finishing work. So, question, how do you feel about tacos? Her: In what sense? Her: Hahah Me: i mean if it's a type of food you like Her: Yes I like them Me (Voice note): Look so I discovered this amazing taco place downtown and because you took me to the best wings I've had, it's only fair I take you to the best tacos I've had. What do you think. Her: Yesss Me: Great. So when does it work for you. Friday or Saturday. And that was it. No reply.
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Ok, I'll reach out on Friday then.
But this is more of a overall game question.
I know you reply to dozens or maybe hundreds of messages everyday, but I would really appreciate advice in the situation itself.
This chick is the hottest girl I've been on a date with. And she had really high interest, took selfies of us, touched me a lot, stayed later than expected. Problem was just that i kissed her in a bad moment (bad venue and timing, she probably would have been more than happy if it was on a better moment), and that made things awkward for the last part of the date. Later when she texted me after getting home, she showed concern over if did enjoy the night asking if she did something that bothered me. I said no but in a way that was easily misunderstood, she got a little angry as it came off as me thinking she was "meh". I clarified and she understood but obviously it made me lose momentum anyways.
You are the only guy I trust over all these coaches, hope you have the time to give some insight.
(Things are the same as in the time i posted this, she has not responded, but has looked at my insta stories).
Thank you
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thanks man, i appreciate that. I learned this lesson the hard way but quite often a date that did not end in sex, didn't really go as well as you thought you did. Think about it this way, you get out of a long sales appointment and your manager asks how it went, you say it was great. So the manager asks you how many units did the customer buy, you say none, but the vibe was great. Your manager looks at you and shakes his head. The point is that actions speak a lot louder than words. Thats not to say, if you dont sleep with a girl for the first not. Its over, far from it, but I have found that it is that it can be very tricky. Check out my video on "how to get girls that you did not hook up with on the first date" i give multiple examples there. In your situation at this point the chick might have lost interest or might still be interested but forgot to text you back. But really no way to tell so all you can do is run good game, be patient, persistent.
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Yes I understand. However I get the impression that in my country, hookup culture is not even close to being as prevalent in my country compared to the US. I know that because of the first date lays I've had, they have always been girls from Europe or the us, never from here (Colombia) or at least at my age and social class (middle class, early 20s). Probably it's because we leave the nest quite later so we don't have our own place to hookup easily.
Back to this girls case, she actually responded ininitating a new conversation. It went like this.
Her: Hey!
Me: hey hey, how's it going
Her: Going great. How about you?
Me: actually I got really good news in the morning, so I'm doing great too.
Her: Really? Tell me about it
Me: It's work related. It will sound even better with those tacos around though. (Refering to the taco place of our past conversation).
And no reply, she was replying right away until that point.
I don't know how to handle this. She's probably just wasting my time. I thought that maybe I brought up meeting too soon in that conversation, but it would also not make sense to chit chat when we have already met before and were even making plans a couple days ago. This way I'm making clear I'm not willing to be a pen pal she can text just to get rid of boredom.
But what's your take?