“Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. There will be plenty of room for fancy dinner dates in the future :)” “That sounds amazing but for our first date I have a different plan” then offer to cook at my place and share wine on my balcony “Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. Food can make me sleepy”
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He definitely soft closed too early but it's not really because of the time he took to soft close more so the interaction that was had. I don't believe 2 days to re-engage is too little time either if that's what you're trying to say
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On the 2nd point - no, I agree with you 2 days is fine for the takeaway. But I still think the soft close was offered too early - the entire interaction looks like it was about 16-20 hours, then the 2 day takeaway, then the 4 day response. I agree if there's a strong organic connection then a soft close can happen fast, but as you say this is just some pop culture banter and not that solid.
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I think the goal is definitely to have strong flowing real time conversation by responding as quickly as possible (easier said than done of course- it's tempting to just sit on a response in order to think of a "perfect" response) Not only does it build a stronger connection/vibe but it reduces chances of shit happening like her talking to other guys while waiting for your reply or her getting busy and forgetting to reply for example.