Girl asking for a “wine and dine”
536 Posts (+164), 850 Cmts (+529)
“Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. There will be plenty of room for fancy dinner dates in the future :)”
“That sounds amazing but for our first date I have a different plan” then offer to cook at my place and share wine on my balcony
“Let’s keep the first date casual and stick to drinks. Food can make me sleepy”
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26 Posts (+32), 186 Cmts (+99)
"Let's save the fancy dinner dates for our honeymoon"
"I cook a mean food"
I dont think shes trying to use you necessary like Life Skills thinks. It could just be an objection about not wanting a sex date. Maybe uncover with something like "let me guess, major lightweight?"
Hope these helped a bit this is a tough one
536 Posts (+164), 850 Cmts (+529)
Yeah it is tough. I ended up going with this so hopefully it works
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9 Posts (+15), 447 Cmts (+389)
Yea thats a good response. I just say a simular version of the 1st line you suggested "im saving a fancy romantic dinner for our 3rd date"
Gl hope it works out w her🤞
4 Posts (+5), 111 Cmts (+49)
What's your question here bro? Are you asking how to convince her to come over instead of eating out? If so, I would play off of the GoT thing you have going on with her. Build a little bit more comfort/rapport, and then try to soft close by inviting her over to watch the premiere of the next episode.
Best of luck 🤞
536 Posts (+164), 850 Cmts (+529)
She’s extremely hot so I’m not even sure I wanna risk inviting her straight over. I just don’t wanna do a dinner date, would prefer just having wine at a bar nearby
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
I would reframe "extremely hot" to "she looks attractive but lets see what she's like, if we click etc, she's lucky to meet me also" in your own mind.
Also this looks low investment to me. My bet is she'll flake unless you do in fact wine and dine her (read: $500 tab, she'll happily use you for that).
My advice would be to wait at least a day, then something like: "actually there's this funky upscale wine bar I had in mind, they do have hors d'oeurves and the atmosphere is awesome. What do you think about that?"
Hors d'oeurves can be any friggin food it just sounds fancy. And by asking at the end, you possibly up the investment, at least you give her a chance to invest. She also could be a chick who's either using dudes for nice meals out, or looking for a sugar daddy and screening accordingly. I think you'll need the "only if you want to" frame. And don't dwell too much on her looks, hold frame.
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
Actually , upon a closer look - she first responded sat 27th at 2:04pm. You soft closed - can't tell exactly, but probably less than 24 hours later. Then you do the takeaway 2 days later, then she takes 4 days to suggest trite "how bout a wine and dine" so- tough love but I think you messed up...She thinks you're eager and shes gonna see if she can use you at this juncture. You'll have to flip the script and regain frame, which will be tough but give it your best shot. I still like the text suggestion I mentioned above.
You suggested a bottle of wine, which is a PERFECTLY GOOD option for a date. I think it's rather obnoxious of her to want "wind and dine" after waiting two days to get back to you. It's basically saying, "I want more money from you." In my experience, girls like this are douchebags and you should move on.
what's wrong with wining and dining boyo? Alex's wine date isn't written in stone
536 Posts (+164), 850 Cmts (+529)
She unmatched. Oh well
21 Posts (+8), 174 Cmts (+37)
She sounded like a dick anyway. Next!