Some crazy shit happened the other day. I just woke up and I’m getting coffee at a counter, asocial mood, headphones in,bundled up for winter weather, back facing the rest of the store and all of a sudden this absolutely stunning girl quickly comes up to me, reaches over to grab something in front of me, looks straight in my eyes and smiles. I was startled and I say “hey how are you” she says “good how are you” pretty basic but the way she acted and her voice tone told me it was on.. she pays at the counter and I’m behind her and run out while she’s getting in her car. She’s smiling with her mouth wide open the whole time and the first thing she says is “do you come here a lot? I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before” she asks where we live she puts her # in my phone the whole interaction was phenomenal. We both leave for work and I text her when I get home. Starts off good.. quickly dissipated and I get left on read when I go for the date. I run into her today (2 days later) she apologizes for not answering and says she’s been busy. Convo is ok and at one point I suggests meeting at the bar next door that night. Too busy. Another night this week. Too busy. I tell her to Hmu when she figures it out. That interaction was meh.. they keep happening in the morning before coffee and before work and I’ve been walking on eggshells prior to this because I keep blowing amazing interactions with texting. Like 12 in a row that should be layups
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If you read the post this text convo was 3 days ago and I ran into her yesterday. She apologized for not answering the text and then went on to say she’s too busy to set a date right now. I told her to get in touch when she figures it out. If I am likely to see her again what do I do in this circumstance. Nothing? Or if you’re too nervous I’d understand? Btw the reason I am concerned with this girl is I’ve been out daygaming heavy for a few months and have been running into this issue repeatedly and just discovered Alex’s channel. I ended things in a pretty poor way with a girl I went out with and decided to take a break from approaching girls because of this issue. That’s when this girl approaches me, I didn’t even want to approach at the time but she served herself up on a silver platter. That’s why I am frustrated because I was already aware of this issue and tweaked my texting but it still didn’t work. The girl is hotter than any girl I’ve gone out with in the past few years and she initiated. If I can’t figure this out I’ll probably take a break for a month or so. I was already planning this before this girl approached me.
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I know it's frustrating but as i said already there is no such thing as too busy. She simply doesn't want to meet. Lets be real, she didn't open you, she just grabed something in front of you in the store. You opened her and as she said she is just nice and talkative and didn't mind giving her number but that doesn't mean she wants to go out with you. You already do cold approach which is great. Don't let one girl ruin the rest of them for you. We all fail much more than we succed with girls. Text this one in a few weeks. Trust me. Show her that she isn't a variable in your life. Start cold approaching again and get your ass on tinder.
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Also cmon you don’t think I can have a 5 minute interaction with a girl staring me dead in the eyes for 5 minutes and be able to tell what’s going on..
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I appreciate the help, I’m on the way to do cold approach right now. I must say I do find it offensive though when guys who were not in the interaction say what did and didn’t happen.. as if I can’t tell when a girl is coming on to me. I started to walk up to her outside and her mouth was hanging open smiling. Her first words were “Do you come here a lot, I CAN’T BELIEVE I’VE NEVER SEEN YOU BEFORE WHERE DO YOU LIVE” she knew what was happening before I even said anything, she asked how old I was, she told me where she worked without me asking, from the second I saw her through til the time I ended the interaction she had a big cheesing smile on her face. I’m not making this shit up. I was genuinely annoyed that this happened when it did before I re-engaged her because I was not in the mood to approach.