Not sure if I steered it too serious here, but wanted to get past that first part. Thoughts on where to go from here?
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Not sure if I steered it too serious here, but wanted to get past that first part. Thoughts on where to go from here?
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If we want to dig into it... she's communicating a few things: she finds your reply amusing (which ought to be what you intended), she's confirming that you're not actually offering a 'date' (which you better not be), and she's letting you know that she meets people on the regular (which is great news for you and should not be a threat to your frame). You got her to engage! You got her to confirm that a meetup is on the cards! Quit snatching defeat from the jaws of victory ;)
edit: the 'romantic date' thing is a magical shared joke, that lets you make it clear that your meetup is not platonic, and put across some attractive and high-value things, without going overtly sexual and getting blown out, without seeming arrogant and conceited, and while showing that you're a sophisticated person who 'gets it'. If you think a date is seriously being proposed, and you're defending some flowers and a movie shit, you don't get it :)
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Well I didn’t set this one up great, so, I don’t know that she’s on that page, I’m thinking she’s just down to meet . Here’s the whole convo for context
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5 Posts (+2), 372 Cmts (+206)
You fuckin nailed it with the sweatpants line, good choice, get back into logistics. Personally I'd ditch whatever I had on tomorrow, but I have a crush on this chick's text game
eta: like, she's not aware that she's communicating those things. Unlike us she's not on some forum carefully crafting replies with a committee. But she does feel all those things, and she's putting them across automatically. Great communication is when you understand them automatically. We can do this decoding thing while you're learning but it's highly unnatural so I try not to do it often.