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ok so the whole 'romantic date' thing is a shared joke, you get that right? When she shows that she's in on the joke, don't get all serious defending it. You can double down on 'romantic date' as long as it's super clear that it's A JOKE. Her reply wasn't a shit test, just banter, but you somehow made it into one.
'I expect you to drink your share of the wine on this "meetup" 😂'
'Need you to dress up in your sexiest sweatpants'
'My treat, and I hear the McNuggets are in season'
'What am I going to do with this tux I rented?'
btw I'm not saying any of these are golden lines, I'm just trying to move forward from the position you've talked your way into
I think this chick's hilarious... when I saw the first screenshot I was like don't fuck it up, don't fuck it up... oof
Interesting, I went with the sexy sweatpants line. So not a shit test. I took it like, she’s trying to dictate the kind of hangout. She has been very brief before this. Then she gave me her number with text in front of it in response to one of my questions about availability
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If we want to dig into it... she's communicating a few things: she finds your reply amusing (which ought to be what you intended), she's confirming that you're not actually offering a 'date' (which you better not be), and she's letting you know that she meets people on the regular (which is great news for you and should not be a threat to your frame). You got her to engage! You got her to confirm that a meetup is on the cards! Quit snatching defeat from the jaws of victory ;)
edit: the 'romantic date' thing is a magical shared joke, that lets you make it clear that your meetup is not platonic, and put across some attractive and high-value things, without going overtly sexual and getting blown out, without seeming arrogant and conceited, and while showing that you're a sophisticated person who 'gets it'. If you think a date is seriously being proposed, and you're defending some flowers and a movie shit, you don't get it :)
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Yeah, I agree. You did go too serious on that message. She's either trolling or hates the idea of a commitment (My first gf was like that). A much better response would have been "yeah, I love those long and deep meetups..". At this point, I would say something like "Not at all, no expectations on my end"