Do you guys ever address the anxiety when it happens or after dates. Sometimes my anxiety makes me freeze up and run out of shit to say and I was wondering if any of you guys had any experience talking about that like addressing the obvious elephant in the room. I had a date last night and it reared its head and I started blanking. We still made out ( tried pulling to my place from my rooftop with a view but she said she was too tired and had to go) during the date periodically but the convo was not fun or deep. More on the lame superficial side. Anyhow I was wandering if I should address next time we chat or text because I'm fairly certain I fucked this up and bored the hell out of her on our first date.
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If meeting for drinks at a bar, what do you guys do to ensure it's a fun time. Also what is the length of time you allow for drinks before trying to transition to your place for further drinks or to try to close.
How do you guys transition to your apartments from the date and do you always go for it or sometimes wait until the second or third date?
Can you guys share advice that clarify the best ways or lines that are good for escalating while on a date. I find that I blank too often on dates especially when things are going well. In the past I try to focus on the color of her eyes but again my vocabulary is limited when it comes to escalating. Some practical lines to set the process in motion would be super helpful.
Is there a way to practice being more flirty with girls. I find it's so hard to tease girls and wish there was a way to practice. I have pretty bad social anxiety and it's hard to be fun and flirty when it feels like I'm fearing for life. Any thoughts?
Last week I set up a Hinge date at at an outdoor cafe for wine and chilling in the park for a bit across the street from my apt building. While in the park we made out heavily and I managed to pull her to my apt in nyc. She was dtf and surprisingly very much into me because I butchered the date with some light awkwardness and minimal banter. It was very logical and lame but I clumsily pulled it off. Anyhow the sex was good and I made her cum a bunch of times. I reached out to her a couple times by text and once by phone but I feel like my anxieties got the best of me because I felt like I caught Corona and didn't want to get her sick and expressed that but it turns out I was just overreacting. She's been working online and apologized for not getting back to me and teased me for leaving a voicemail which I owned. Anyway, I texted her casually about her day and shared something about my day too but she let lie and has been unresponsive for a day. I'm thinking to set up a second date at my place for wine and a movie. Should I just put it out there over text even tho she didn't respond to my last text. I feel like if I don't set something up soon she'll lose interest even tho we did hook up. Will it look too needy if I unapologetically just suggest a date sat night?
