Becoming more flirty
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4 Cmts
5y ago
Is there a way to practice being more flirty with girls. I find it's so hard to tease girls and wish there was a way to practice. I have pretty bad social anxiety and it's hard to be fun and flirty when it feels like I'm fearing for life.
Any thoughts?
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
You're gonna have a hard time being witty & flirty when you're fight or flight mode. You need to progressively desensitize yourself to things that reduce your anxiety. That is the first, and the most important step. Go out and put yourself in situations that make you a bit uncomfortable. Everyday, try to do a little bit more and a little bit more. Eventually, you'll notice that the things that once made you very uncomfortable only made you mildly uncomfortable.
6 Posts (+1), 11 Cmts (+3)
Can you be more specific? I have done so and
Generally tho I've become ok with being conversant but I do have a tendency to freeze up on dates or in groups and it causes me to blow myself out.
If you had a some drills or banter excersizes I feel like I'd be able to better get a grasp. It's shitty living with this but it's been a life long struggle
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
I think that giving you specific drills of what to say in a conversation would actually do more harm then good as it would cause you to get even more stifled. Check out the Demonic Confidence Challenge. I did that when I was getting into game and it definitely helped expand my comfort zone. If you can get through that you'll definitely feel a bit more confident. Also, your issue is very common. Most guys freeze up from time to time. It's okay, don't be hard on yourself. Just laugh it off and treat it like no big deal and keep going. It's only a big deal, if you make it a big deal. Hope that helps man.
3 Posts (+5), 8 Cmts (+2)
I understand how you're feeling, dealing with general anxiety is frustrating. However, you have to accept that its there and that everyone has it. Many of the coaches here had and dealt with it.
To progress, it depends how you feel. Start slowly, try talking to more people not just girls you find attractive. Anybody will do and this is the time to practice conversation and eye contact. After, try joining groups and hobbies you like and start talking. Eventually you start easing your way and you can start approaching attractive women.
This will take time depending on how much effort you put in. But you have to take responsibility and do things to improve. Be humble, let go of your ego and put yourself out there.