The whole phone number thing is suboptimal... she was interested and replying quickly, should have closed the date in-app. Now y'all are talking about snapchat instead of sex

You were being tested here. You said you're definitely a bad influence, she told you to go ahead and prove it, your response is... coffee?

Nothing wrong with coffee in general but it's not exactly badass. And you can pass a test or deal with it another way but what you cannot do is fail it or try to close in the middle of it.

It's fine, just... twist the vibe knob a bit

I'm no martial artist but the ones I know do everything possible to avoid fights or run away from them. What I can guarantee is, if you get hit in the head with a chair or an iron bar, you'll need to set your tinder radius to "within 50 yards of the rehab center" for the next year. Don't be a fucking idiot.

"Tuesday, week after next, sounds good. Shoot me your number for date arrangement purposes"

She's offered you a time, man, just get it done. You seem to be looking everywhere for ways to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory

If you lay out "we should split a bottle some time" and you get a green light, you GOOOOO! You've started the soft close, there are no other topics but the close.

"I've got a bottle of red I've been meaning to get at. When are you free?"

This is beyond my pay grade, it might benefit you to learn more about avoidant attachment style

#2 is very real. Sildenafil etc maintains erections, it doesn't cause them. If your brain feels unattracted/uncomfortable/unsafe about having sex with someone, it vetoes your arousal for your own good and there's no erection to maintain.

#1 is interesting, were you just tired? Men often get a kick of arousal for a new partner that they don't get for repeat sex with the same partner. (google: coolidge effect)

A masterclass right here, and she provided a bonus blooper reel!

You said you hated me conversations and then turned it into such a giant me conversation that your me-bubble took up 2 screens